@Skarekrow - Hahaha, that story is very familiar to me, but we only asked $1 on the East Coast. It was so unusual to have liberty spikes, a Mohawk, or dyed hair then. People would stop their cars to fight us, throw stuff at us, spit on us, or just harass us. If you saw any punk in trouble, you stopped to help. There weren't that many of us, and "norms" didn't wear Doc Martens, spikes and pyramids, etc, then (pre-grunge). We all knew how to fight out of necessity. I am not fond of the violence in the scene, but it came with the territory.
The violence - Defending ourselves against people who thought we were funny looking, literally punching Nazis, the fights at shows, how the scene elders put people in their places, etc, and later the organized gangs in hardcore (as in, on the FBI list, worldwide organized gangs) is so bizarre and unhealthy, but at the same time, people weren't passive aggressive or disrespectful. You didn't start trouble with anyone unless you were willing to pay the consequences. You only acted that way with someone worth being enemies with, and if it was worth literally fighting for. We treated each other with respect. If you acted like a jerk you could have a literal gang turn against you, a gun pointed at you. I don't deal well with people who are passive aggressive and manipulative, or try to be stealth disrespectful, because that kind of behavior would have consequences in my culture. If you confront these behaviors with "normal" people they act like they're doing nothing wrong, and it is because they've never lived in a society where you'd lose teeth, or even get shot or stabbed, for behaving that way.
My ex-boyfriend was a squatter, and I squatted with him for a little while, but it wasn't for me. I like showers, and clean laundry. Haha. I was an apartment punk. My home became the place for touring bands. They had a clean place to stay, beds and sleeping bags, home cooked meals, laundry, etc. I've met a lot of my friends all over the world by opening my doors to strangers who were on tour. I'm close friends with many of them because they felt comfortable talking to me and would talk about deeply personal issues.
I see everything wrong with punk, and I have a lot of problems with punk, but I will always be grateful for the friends I've made, everything we saw on tour, and the people we met. I loved my role of caring for people. How else would I have ever seen stuff, or met real people all over the world, including some people who are very dear to me. <3
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