soulseeker
Permanent Fixture
- MBTI
- INFJ
It seems as if every time we are out together, there are random people coming up to me and saying:
"Be careful with him."
"He's not what he appears."
"He's not a nice guy."
I don't get people. So I'm not understanding why some people I don't know would come out of nowhere and say stuff like this.
This is sort of difficult for me, so much that I've withdrawn from him a lot and it's really not fair to him or me. The whole thing is making me suspicious from a logical standpoint, but in my heart, I feel he is misunderstood.
Can anyone give me any insight into what may be going on here? This has been bugging me a bit. Thanks ahead.
I don't my misunderstood friend is an ENTP.. but a lot of people don't like her and they think she's very very moody and she is most of the times.. she would seem insensitive to others...
but... I know she's MISUNDERSTOOD.. because other people don't TRY to know the person more and they just judge them right away from what they think that person is and what that person seems to be and what other people tell them about that certain person.. and I KNOW that she's a nice person.. she cares for people ... she is a REAL FRIEND
yes it is unfair for that person.. maybe try to get to know him more.. and if you don't think he's like what other people tell him then be friends with him...
there are A LOT of people like that.. and your relationship with him is different with his relationship with other people
and you know.. a lot of people like the GOOD PEOPLE... and what is good for them anyway? someone who does not stand up for themselves because they just want to keep quiet and avoid conflicts?.. the people who don't want to speak out even when they're oppressed .. that's what most people like... those are the GOOD AND KIND PEOPLE... <-- my friend is very outspoken and she speaks her mind but is still sensitive and people don't like her because she's vocal about things .. she's not even insensitive.. and they compare her to what they see as "KIND PEOPLE"... seriously.. is standing there not doing anything when in fact you know something is wrong and you have to take action GOOD? <-- and that IS WHY they don't like my friend
so... maybe.. maybe they don't know your friend in the same level you know him