Reciprocation

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How important do you think reciprocation is within social relationships?

Also, am I wrong in thinking that the other side of reciprocation would be altruism?
 
I suppose two altrustic people would naturally come to some sort of loose reciprocation.

Like with my friends, we don't return money or food etc usually exactly to the dot but it all balances out eventually.

With people you don't really care for, though, sometimes altruism is a nice thing but the relationship has to be somewhat formally reciprocal...to makes things fairer.
 
i don't think people should keep score, but give and take is, at least for me, a requirement in any relationship.
i'm more likely to give in my relationship than my partner is, but he is more likely to give more when he does. that's a balance i can live with.
 
Reciprocation is INCREDIBLY important. You have to receive the energy you give and visa versa ... otherwise you face burn out.
 
It also has to flow on its own.. If it is absent to begin with it won't get any better. Certain things are not to be explained and can't be forced upon.
 
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AhSver said:
It also has to flow on its own.. If it is absent to begin it won't get any better. Certain things are not to be explained and can't be forced upon.
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Of course. You have to want to give. With love. Doing so because of some feeling of debt is not a sign of a healthy relationship.
 
Not very. I think there is something basically wrong with "score" keeping. There are just times when someone needs more, when you need more or when things are relatively balanced. It is the ebb and flow of a dynamic relationship. To me, reciprocation has the flavor of expectation. Every relationship is about give and take. Even those who cry around that someone is just "taking" are getting a payout of some kind--just maybe not one they recognize. I think people spend too much time wasting energy on this concept of "fairness". I call BS. It is never fair, ever. All you can really strive for is parity and a desire to show/share/give someone the best of yourself.
 
Sriracha said:
Reciprocation is INCREDIBLY important. You have to receive the energy you give and visa versa ... otherwise you face burn out.
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+1

for me too!
 
Upon reflection; I kept coming back to this issue. I realized I have made such topic before, so..

Personally speaking,
It's been somewhat of a craving for me. Resulting to a weakness towards the slightest resemblance of reciprocation and appreciation.
Of "OH GOD MY EFFORTS ARE RETURNING TO ME OH YES OH YES OH YES"

Not to all things. But a lot of things I gave effort to others, I sort of wished for some reciprocation.
My jobs a few years ago (...around the time I made this thread, really) were burning me out ever so slowly because of this, too.

I feel....needy.
But at the same time, I cannot help but thinking 'I'm not -wrong- for wanting it, am I?'
I...I do not know what to do
 
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