sapphiresky
<3
- MBTI
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- Type 4,6,9
Some people might judge and think that I am psychoanalyzing the crap out of these people, but some people might understand. Writing helps me find closure.
Ok, so my husband has these "friends" that he met at his previous church. I met them in 2016 at our wedding. My husband thought it was a good idea for me to get acquainted with his friend's wife because I don't know many people.
The only thing that my husband and his male friend have is in common is football, particularly the football team from their home state.
One day they invited us to their home for the first time. Ok so our wedding was a beach wedding, and as with most weddings not everything went according to plan, but at least I can say the ceremony didn't have any issues. The reception, unfortunately, didn't go smoothly because it was affected by mother nature. But at least it was a short reception and all the guests had good food and cake.
So the wife of my husband's friend without knowing me, told me that I should have done things differently with my wedding. She looked clearly upset at how my wedding turned out and didn't say anything good about it.
I felt uncomfortable and stayed quiet but I thought she was rude and didn't like her right off the bat but decided to give her a chance. They went to a beach wedding before and said that they had issues with high tide. If they already had such an experience at a beach wedding before why did they decide to go to another one?
So, this couple started to invite us to their two kids' birthday parties. We pretty much went to all of them every year until the following years after the pandemic. We always brought gifts for the kids. It was interesting to me that most of the people at these parties were adults and very few kids. We didn't have children at the time either. So it makes me wonder if they were using us to get gifts for their kids.
I never connected with this woman through these birthday parties, it seems that she was either too busy or just avoiding me. We also went to their home a few times to watch football games, and I haven't found any common ground with her. We just have small talk.
So after I had my first daughter.......the only thing they did was congratulate us through Facebook. This was during pandemic times, but if they cared they would have sent us a cheap card from the dollar store at least. We didn't get anything from them which was pretty strange after we went to all those birthday parties an hour away from our home.
Even my next-door neighbors who just moved in at the time gave us a card to congratulate us.
Months ago during football season, my husband and his friend decided to reconnect again. He invited them to our home to watch the game.
Husband buys pizza, and of course, they show up an hour and a half late, with no apologies or reasonable excuse. The pizza gets cold.
We have a dog, which is no mystery because I have posted pictures of her on my FB, then we find out that their boy is allergic to dogs and has a bad reaction, and the mother is upset. We have to leave the dog outside, and she is barking the entire time because she wants to be with people.
Then I find out his daughter is gluten-free, so she can't eat pizza, and she is eating a bag of popcorn that she bought, so I feel bad.
It seems that my husband is not close to his friend, as they only meet up when their team is doing well during football, and after they lose they don't talk until the next year which I think is not a true friendship.
Should I suggest to my husband to just meet up at a restaurant to watch the football game with his friend next year? They live an hour away, so I think is a good idea for them to meet in the middle and forget the gathering with the whole family.
I just feel they are too high maintenance. I can't connect with them.
Ok, so my husband has these "friends" that he met at his previous church. I met them in 2016 at our wedding. My husband thought it was a good idea for me to get acquainted with his friend's wife because I don't know many people.
The only thing that my husband and his male friend have is in common is football, particularly the football team from their home state.
One day they invited us to their home for the first time. Ok so our wedding was a beach wedding, and as with most weddings not everything went according to plan, but at least I can say the ceremony didn't have any issues. The reception, unfortunately, didn't go smoothly because it was affected by mother nature. But at least it was a short reception and all the guests had good food and cake.
So the wife of my husband's friend without knowing me, told me that I should have done things differently with my wedding. She looked clearly upset at how my wedding turned out and didn't say anything good about it.
I felt uncomfortable and stayed quiet but I thought she was rude and didn't like her right off the bat but decided to give her a chance. They went to a beach wedding before and said that they had issues with high tide. If they already had such an experience at a beach wedding before why did they decide to go to another one?
So, this couple started to invite us to their two kids' birthday parties. We pretty much went to all of them every year until the following years after the pandemic. We always brought gifts for the kids. It was interesting to me that most of the people at these parties were adults and very few kids. We didn't have children at the time either. So it makes me wonder if they were using us to get gifts for their kids.
I never connected with this woman through these birthday parties, it seems that she was either too busy or just avoiding me. We also went to their home a few times to watch football games, and I haven't found any common ground with her. We just have small talk.
So after I had my first daughter.......the only thing they did was congratulate us through Facebook. This was during pandemic times, but if they cared they would have sent us a cheap card from the dollar store at least. We didn't get anything from them which was pretty strange after we went to all those birthday parties an hour away from our home.
Even my next-door neighbors who just moved in at the time gave us a card to congratulate us.
Months ago during football season, my husband and his friend decided to reconnect again. He invited them to our home to watch the game.
Husband buys pizza, and of course, they show up an hour and a half late, with no apologies or reasonable excuse. The pizza gets cold.
We have a dog, which is no mystery because I have posted pictures of her on my FB, then we find out that their boy is allergic to dogs and has a bad reaction, and the mother is upset. We have to leave the dog outside, and she is barking the entire time because she wants to be with people.
Then I find out his daughter is gluten-free, so she can't eat pizza, and she is eating a bag of popcorn that she bought, so I feel bad.
It seems that my husband is not close to his friend, as they only meet up when their team is doing well during football, and after they lose they don't talk until the next year which I think is not a true friendship.
Should I suggest to my husband to just meet up at a restaurant to watch the football game with his friend next year? They live an hour away, so I think is a good idea for them to meet in the middle and forget the gathering with the whole family.
I just feel they are too high maintenance. I can't connect with them.