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I'm reading the book "into great silence" from Miek Pot and I really liked this part:
It is the silence that brings me back in contact with my deepest self and with that I get back my vitality. The inner space in me, that is my home, there I find I deep feeling of happyness and being alone and being silent (meaning no sound but also stopping the inner conversation) helps me with that.
In the beginning of silence I see it as dry and tough and I still have the tendency to phone or to sit behind the computer endlesly. And I have a compelling need for contact. But the more I ignore my stimuli, the more I feel a deep surrender. A very deep feeling of peace and quietness. And I see that I interact with people in a totaly different way. My expectations are gone. Everything that comes is good, but everything that doesn't come is also good. I also notice that I start talking differently. I started talking in a way that I don't lose myself, this in contrast with the normal chatter. When I chatter I lose myself more and more.
My conclusion after these experiences is that you don't solve lonelyness with gattering people around you but by coming home to yourself. When you are lonely, you are in fact "living in the house of other people". The art is to get home to yourself again. That is a lifelong training but it gets better with practice
I really like this piece because in fact this is something I've started to learn on my own and now this book conferms it. And the way I talk is really a barometer to measure how well my contact is with myself. The less my contact with myself, the more I start to chatter, listen to others opinions, and start adapting other peoples visions and way of acting... and the more unhappy and empty I feel. The past week I have tried to implement some moments of quietness and lonelyness and although I get easely distracted it still is paying off. The more I'm in contact with myself, the more I'm listening to what I want, what I need, what MY point of view is. And the most dazling part of it is that other people like me more when I'm "selfish" and true to myself instead of adapting myself to them...
I just wanted to share this with you ...
yes I know ...
... you can start ...
... or ...
now ...
we are desperate in need of more monkeys to represent all my emotions... the ones we have are soooo primative...
It is the silence that brings me back in contact with my deepest self and with that I get back my vitality. The inner space in me, that is my home, there I find I deep feeling of happyness and being alone and being silent (meaning no sound but also stopping the inner conversation) helps me with that.
In the beginning of silence I see it as dry and tough and I still have the tendency to phone or to sit behind the computer endlesly. And I have a compelling need for contact. But the more I ignore my stimuli, the more I feel a deep surrender. A very deep feeling of peace and quietness. And I see that I interact with people in a totaly different way. My expectations are gone. Everything that comes is good, but everything that doesn't come is also good. I also notice that I start talking differently. I started talking in a way that I don't lose myself, this in contrast with the normal chatter. When I chatter I lose myself more and more.
My conclusion after these experiences is that you don't solve lonelyness with gattering people around you but by coming home to yourself. When you are lonely, you are in fact "living in the house of other people". The art is to get home to yourself again. That is a lifelong training but it gets better with practice
I really like this piece because in fact this is something I've started to learn on my own and now this book conferms it. And the way I talk is really a barometer to measure how well my contact is with myself. The less my contact with myself, the more I start to chatter, listen to others opinions, and start adapting other peoples visions and way of acting... and the more unhappy and empty I feel. The past week I have tried to implement some moments of quietness and lonelyness and although I get easely distracted it still is paying off. The more I'm in contact with myself, the more I'm listening to what I want, what I need, what MY point of view is. And the most dazling part of it is that other people like me more when I'm "selfish" and true to myself instead of adapting myself to them...
I just wanted to share this with you ...






we are desperate in need of more monkeys to represent all my emotions... the ones we have are soooo primative...
