Surprised at how complimentary people can be . . .

[jimtaylor]

IRL, it feel unnatural for me to give people compliments, usually. Sometimes I want to say them, but I think it will come off sounding weird or awkward, and sometimes I feel a compliment is called for but I don't want to say one because I can't think of anything I really find complimentary about the person/situation at the moment, and I don't want to say something insincere.

Online I am much more complimentary than IRL, mainly because I feel less awkward interacting with people in writing than in person. And, you people are all so nice, it's contagious.

Spot on. I give compliments all the time online on a lot of the forums I am on because for some reason it doesn't seem weird to do so. In real life though, I have to fight the urge to do so. I like want to give the compliment but I don't know how to say it without coming off as wanting something (meaning sex because I guess that's the only reason a guy would even talk to a girl in the real world. ) so I avoid doing it.

Really the worst is not giving compliments, it's getting them. I have no idea what to say when I get a compliment. Here is a normal transcript of what happens.

Person: "You are a great leader"
Me: Look's other direction, mumbles, blushes "Sure, I guess"

or

Person: "You are a great leader"
Me: Same except ignoring the complement completely "Ohhh gosh isn't it such a nice day?"

I always get a weird look either way, like I was supposed to say something else.

 

[Gaze]

It's easier to give compliments online, it's less awkward and because of the distance (usually) involved you don't have to worry about people thinking you're trying to get into their pants*.

*Uberrogo excepted

Kinda agree. The guys seem to be more comfortable giving compliments here online (at least on this forum), i think because they sense that when they give a compliment, it will be taken as such, and nothing more.

And just like many here said, i can't take compliments well either.

 

[Odyne]

And just like many here said, i can't take compliments well either.

Same here.

I am used to complimenting others, and I do it freely if I see someone doing something good or kind or just impressive. I am good at making people feel good about themselves. But when it's done to me, I don't take it well. My best answer has always been "Thank you" and sometimes I feel like it's not enough. So in result, I now shy away from compliments and divert the spotlight to the person giving the compliments. lol