[ENTJ] The Perfect Man

Should men fuse with A.I and eventually trancend their humanity?

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I miss some qualities in previous generations that by today's standards are not considered necessarily necessary or valued qualities (sometimes considered sexist) such as genuine concern and protectiveness for a partner, that sense of responsibility for someone's feelings and emotions, a balance of or the cool interplay of masculine and feminine without the misogyny or anti-feminism.

My number one pet peeve and this is for any gender, learn to listen. Don't assume you know or understand someone or get who they are because of preconceived notions about gender or how you think they should feel or act. Even if you think you know or have it figured out, let the person speak from their own mind and pov. Understand people on their own terms.

Learn to put aside your own feelings about how they should feel, think or be, and let them invite you into their world, and experience that world from their view and experience without judgment. And then take that view into account in how you respond and relate to them. Don't simply ignore it after listening and then expect them to conform to you how you think or feel without any consideration for what they shared or showed you.

Respect the other person's feelings even if you don't like or understand those feelings, even if those feelings are about you and not always easy to hear. It's not always about you and whether you are right or about defending yourself. Let people be free to be understood from their own minds, not yours. Don't insist your partner see things from your perspective because you think you are the smarter one. It's not about win or lose. Just listen sometimes. It's not always about giving your opinion or solving a problem.

Just let your partner feel they have the right to their feelings, and they have the right to share those feelings with you and be heard. This is one of the most underestimated and undervalued qualities and skills in relationships today. Everything is not a competition. Learn how to give people the time they need to process and feel. These are the qualities that facilitate true, long-term partnerships. Hope this helps.
 
Gaze said:
I think my comment was too serious for this thread. :D
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I think it's in line with the OP's intent more than a lot of the stuff here.
And also that last paragraph is dead on.
 
Gaze said:
I think my comment was too serious for this thread. :D
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I think your comment showcased a lot of issues born of enculturation. Bad news is old habits die hard. Upside is we are pretty keen on better ways of doing things.
 
Idk what the hell is going on lately..I have a few close male friends with good jobs who hate women that simply use them for money. However those friends had short relationships with women that refused to accept money, and who preferred to pay their own way. EVERY. ONE. broke it off with these women because they felt they weren't needed, almost insecure about it. Though they admitted they felt these women genuinely cared. AHHH SO CONFUSING?! LOL
Soooo she wasn't using you, but that still posed a problem anyway wtf? Lol
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I feel many like that want to "take care of their woman" or in extreme cases, have somebody financially dependent on them. Refusing money doesn't give that satisfaction, but neither does being used for only that.
But. That's speculation for me. Somebody else may have much better insight.
 
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