But if you haven't consciously considered other possible arguments, how can you know you've found the best one? I encounter this confidence all the time in Ni-doms, and always have trouble understanding it.
The concept of 'knowing' is vague. Must you know because of the right reasons? Must it be true? What is truth?
One will never know for sure. I use theories that are useful. I find MBTI useful, yet there's not much scientific backing.
I've learned that my intuition is mostly right, so I'll assume that, because that makes my life easier.
Whether I make a decision with my intuition or with concsciously considering arguments doesn't matter. With my narrow one-person perspective I won't be able to judge all relevant arguments properly anyway.
I follow what has worked in the past. And if it doesn't work in the future I'll learn from my mistake.
I once asked an INTJ what his accuracy rate was and he said "a little better than 50%". But his measure may be different than yours. You may count that euthanasia debate as "being right" because you won. But that issue is not so much a question of true or false as it is a question of good or bad--ie, a question of values. So you may have won the debate, but you can't say your argument was "right" in the sense of being true. It was simply more persuasive. And that is not necessarily the same thing.
It's never about being right in the absolute sense. As I've just motivated I don't think we can know an absolute truth. The argument was 'right' in the context of the situation. It convinced people to think differently.
Values can't be true or false as you mentioned. Thus I worded my argument such that even people with values opposing euthanasia could see the benefit of euthanasia. This probably never changed their values and I don't intend to, I just want to show them a new perspective.
Do you see images when these ideas come to you? Do you visualize Ni? Or is it just these ideas as you've described them here?
I don't visualise. It's just suddenly there and very hard to describe. I always try to rationalise afterwards what happened and why I got to it, but that's hard.
So by "system" you mean a detailed explanation or maybe even theory? What did you mean by "plan"?
I don't know. The quote was from personalitypage.com. They don't explain it.
System is a frame or way to explain a theory. The system I meant was Te at work. It was a text explaining my theory to others. A system in the sense of Ti is understanding everything and have a few simple explanations for it (Physicist trying to bring all kinds of forces back to a few: gravity, magnetism etc).
A plan would be a course of action, but I don't think that's what personalitypage.com meant.
This passage illustrates why INTJs and Ni-doms are not the best debaters since they often can't explain the steps in their thinking, the steps being necessary to convince others of their arguments.
Totally. Also I don't like debating, because if the other is right I want to be able to agree with him
Often the day after a nice mind-inspiring chat I finally know how to explain everything.
Yes, Ni can yield insights that may be the kernels of truth around which theories can be advanced or even built. It can be very powerful in this way. However, because intuition is essentially informed guessing, it depends on the information informing its guesses, and the more experience and knowledge a Ni-user has the better and more accurate his guesses will be. The corollary is that the less informed a Ni-user is, the less useful his guesses will be. The problem arises that Ni-doms are so accustomed to using and trusting their intuitions that they are prone to deceiving themselves and believing their intuitions may be trusted in all situations, including ones they have less or even little knowledge or experience of. This is where a reality check from their other functions can be especially useful.
Does this make sense? And do you deliberately check and balance your Ni by routinely second guessing yourself in this way?
It makes perfect sense. Yes, I do this all day long if I had the time.
I've always been an extreme over-thinker.
I found that the values I assign to arguments (to rationally consider them) is heavily influenced by my emotions. Right know I've got 10 arguments why this girl doesn't like me and 10 why she does. Some of those arguments are really small and some are substantial. The weight I assign to the arguments changes based on my emotional state. Considering the worth of these arguments becomes extremely subjective and no where near the truth. Using reason to find the truth is impossible.
For less emotional topics, scrutinising Ni by Ti works great and I'll do it plenty.
So constantly second guessing myself wasn't enough. I have others second guess me constantly.
Currently I'm dating a girl and obviously that brings food for thought for me. A list of people I've involved on getting advice with this particular girl. (Many on the list have been consulted multiple times)
Flatmate 1
Flatmate 2
Flatmate 3
Flatmate 4
Flatmate 5
Best friend
Mom
Flatmate of said girl 1
Flatmate of said girl 2
Flatmate of said girl 3
Flatmate of said girl and colleague of me
Colleague 2
Colleague 3
Studyfriend 1
Studyfriend 2
INTJ forum
INFJ forum
And I'd totally add anyone willing to listen.
People are actually getting annoyed by me asking to second-guess me. I'm obsessed with learning about myself. I'm obsessed with knowing as much as I can about a situation like dating. To know as much as I can I cannot only use my own knowledge. I'll have to tap into the perspectives of others. I've found that plenty people are really simple minded and don't get me, but that's ok. I value their input. Besides if 2 people tell me one thing and 10 people tell me to do the other, I'm more inclined to go for the second option.
Also I believe the girl is an ISFJ. I've thus read a lot about ISFJs. But I realise that I imagine/plan having a relationship with an ISFJ, not with
her. So I often end such a reading session with the thought: Lets find out if she's really like that. And not with the thoughts: I've figured her out and I'll follow these assumptions.
This case is about me though. I do scrutinse my own Ni. And I even scrutinise my Ti. And I think that that's a good thing to do.
This reminds me of a comment I made on the INTJ forum where it claimed INTJs were the master race. I concluded that 'I' am awesome and not necessarily all INTJs.
Warning: It's heavily patting myself on the back. Even some self-scrutinising and them further patting myself on the back for self-scrutinising.
http://intjforum.com/showpost.php?p=4450063&postcount=54