Type Your Parents

Mom - ESFJ
Dad - (didn’t take the test before he passed away but...I would say) I(*)TJ It’s a toss up between N and S...if I had to guess I would lean more toward ISTJ.
 
both tested unofficially.

mom - INFJ
dad - ISTJ

(I think there's a duplicate thread lying around here somewhere...)
 
I've been studying personality types out of my own accord for a few years now. I'm really good at pinpointing what personality type individuals are after conversing with them several times. Although my parents are reluctant to take the MBTI test, I'm 100% sure my mother is an ENFP and father is ISTP. I'm sure I inherited my J from either one of my grandfathers, one being an ENFJ and the other ESFJ.
 
My dad is I believe ESTP, he's awesome we butt heads from time to time but mostly get along really well...my mother is really hard to type because she's got pretty serious bi-polar disorder (which she claims isn't that bad and it's almost like she doesn't have it anymore), she's also emotionally abusive (still) even though I thought she had gotten past that, but nope. ...so sometimes it's hard for me to tell what's her and what's the disorder. I think she's ESFJ. She's something that fights with INTP (me) constantly and takes every constructive criticism as a personal attack and then upon "feeling attacked" uses it as an excuse to send emotion tipped arrows my way, using every personal feeling I've confided in her about as a weapon. She also lies a lot (my bullshit detector has caught her in thousands of poorly crafted lies) but claims she never lies. She holds things against me forever and uses the faulty logic of always/never. "you always call me a victim" "you never care about my feelings" and things like that are her favorite things to say. Words are weapons to her, she's taught me verbal sword play and I'm better at it than her because I can turn my emotion chip off and she can't. So things can get messy .... Intellectually we are best friends, we can talk for hours, but the minute she perceives that I'm criticizing her precious feelings all hell breaks loose. I thought I had it figured out (how to deal with her) but found out a few weeks ago that I was completely wrong in my interpretation of the situation. I have no siblings. I see through my mother's BS constantly and it makes her resort to crazy things like faking a nervous breakdown or threatening suicide to get me to do what she wants. and when it doesn't work she resorts to crazier methods to get me to feel sorry for her and then wonders why I "always" call her a victim. Again very hard to tell the illness from the type.
 
Whiskey Snow said:
My dad is I believe ESTP
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I don't think I would've been able to cope.


I'm sorry about the struggles you face with your mother. I can relate in many ways. Question though, was she always that way, as far as you remember? Or was it something that progressed over the years?
 
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