Wants vs. Needs . . .

[Duty]

Need:

1. Intellectual stimulation/curiousity.
2. If she was insanely rich, she'd be a philanthropist. In otherwards: a concern for the state of the world.
3. I have to have a certain level of physical attraction to her.
4. She must not smoke or do drugs. Light drinking is ok, but not heavy.
5. A concern for personal development. She must want to better herself.

Want:
1. No drinking.
2. An appreciation for epistemology.
3. Has something to teach me/shows me what she has learned.
4. Very self-confident...knows she could rock my world.
5. Is a complement to me in the following ways:

a. Better understanding of practical/logistical type stuff.
b. Will force me to get out of the house and do stuff.
c. Constant challenge to expand my comfort zone...her comfort zone has to have parts that are outside mine so I can grow into them.
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[AUM]

I really don't want anything. Wants make me suffer.

 

[Gaze]

I really don't want anything. Wants make me suffer.

Yeah, it's true. When you want something you're liable to feel disappointed if you don't receive it. I guess it's working with what you have which is key.

 

[Johnson1]

Matching

Wants
- Sensitive
- Considerate / Empathetic
- Serious & Funny (Balanced)
- Self-Aware
- Not arrogant - Someone who doesn't confuse confidence or arrogance with intelligence
- Laidback but doesn't take things for granted
- Someone who understands the importance of sitting still to listen

Needs
- Emotional support
- Someone who is sensitive w/ good emotional control
- Someone who doesn't give in to emotions easily
- Someone with a strong sense of self
- Someone who has the ability to walk away
- Someone who knows how to respect the needs of others, without ignoring their own

Thanks for liking my list. It's us. I don't get back here much, but I caught up on this discussion.

I see you want love from your question. But, from your posts, it sounds to me like you might have described yourself in your checklist. Is my gut feeling wrong? I wanted to grow and I have by growing into new experiences with a wife that bring new types of joy to me. It is just an idea.