[INFJ] What do you hate about being INFJ?

I do not hate being an INFJ, actually I love being an INFJ. Why do you have to hate something about yourself?
 
I don't think you have to hate yourself, as I mostly really like being an INFJ. However, with any type there are strengths (such as imagination and intuition for the INFJ) but there are downsides, like getting lost in your head.

I'll take the trade-off, personally.
 
Rferraris said:
Is there a part of being INFJ that you wish were different. When I first typed, I felt relieved. I felt understood because most of my life I felt different. I grew up in a pretty intense way which I'd rather get into some place else, but suffice it to say it was intense. Not more intense than anyone else's, just intense is all. And I thought as a consequence I turned out like I did.

I wish I wasn't so judging. And while I'm always looking for values and holding myself and others to those values, I wish I didn't care. I wish I wasn't always paying attention to how I feel about situations. I can't ride in a car and not pay attention to how my intuitions rake me over the coals. Just leave me alone. I don't want to feel anything. Just like to go into a room sometimes blindly and not have the answer before I sit down.
I'm not convinced I know the answers. I'm convinced I make the situation the way I imagine it to be and pretend I have the answers.

Do I have to watch every person and every move everyone makes. Can I not come to all sorts of conclusions based on how you look, walk, sound. I wish I could get away from your aura, or energy or whatever it is that makes you transparent to me.

I wish I could get drunk and play in a bar, but I'll stay home straight by myself and walk the beach alone to get over this. No sound, no lights. Just stare into the black and close my eyes half way.
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Lies...all lies:m177:
 
Oddly enough, I relate to most of your concerns. I wouldn't say I hate these things, but I'm guessing you guys would experience them more strongly.
 
niffer said:
Oddly enough, I relate to most of your concerns. I wouldn't say I hate these things, but I'm guessing you guys would experience them more strongly.
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I looked at your MBTI on your profile and thought "Develop Leukemia?! The fuck?" xD
 
Surely over-thinking/analyzing everything to death; the chaos in my head and explosions of ideas all at the same time; a difficulty to trust and open up.
 
JonMac said:
I hate that, because I'm not outgoing or gregarious, people just look right through me, like I'm invisible.
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This is what I don't get. It sometimes feels like people just seem to notice all of the little details about everyone except me!
 
I dislike the fact that my parents pushing me into extroversion brought out the worst in me, but I am happy I could get that phase over with.
 
I hate that I have so many feelings.

More accurately, I love/hate it.

I hate that what I'm feeling tends to show on my face. I can't hold back a smile like you Fi-ers at all. I hate getting paranoid about my masculinity. I've read that this can be common, since our society (and we clearly care what our society thinks-- courtesy of Fe) sort of frowns upon males having the caregiving traits that come so naturally with the type.

I sometimes hate being able to read people well. I definitely hate the episodic gullibility, which only happens because I WANT to believe in people. I hate the loneliness that is an inherent part of being INFJ (no matter what anyone says :P)

But, most of all... I hate ur mom.
 
Sai said:
EVERYTHING! being an INFJ suxs
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Don't define yourself by these letters, we're all only human.

Perhaps you mean to say that being human can suck, in which case I feel ya.
 
Brodskizzle said:
I dislike the neuroses and inhibitions. I have this elaborate fantasy where I wake up one day and I'm an ENTP, and I just go around being likable and comfortable in my own skin.
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*waves ENTP wand* GRANTED
 
I am changing my type to ISFP, so I can be more shy yet more satisfied with life and emotions. :p



What I hate about being INFJ:

• sensitivity to nuance to the point of abandoning my INFJ friends in real life
• conforming too little or too much to social-group protocols

What I like about being INFJ:

• being independently minded, even when I am nodding in agreement :p
• sensitivity to nuance in appreciation of people's characteristics
 
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Ok, now a question. Simply because I question my INFJness a lot these days. "Do INFJs often have a feeling they have to agree with other people or be liked by other random folks? Because sometimes I see it mentioned and I don't experience that at all! In fact in real life I disagree with others very often and it doesn't even bother me one bit. I'm also quite comfortable with being disliked by some unless it is a person close to me.
 
Ada said:
..... "Do INFJs often have a feeling they have to agree with other people or be liked by other random folks?...............
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One thing I noticed on these forums is that the INFJs constantly take differing positions on concrete issues. Just look at the political and religious debates.

The sentiment of being in the minority in real life is often expressed with differing attitudes about how that impacts the individuals making those statements.

To what degree an individual abandons what they think or feel in order to fit in with their peers hinges on confidence and ego strength. (in my opinion)
 
Ada said:
Ok, now a question. Simply because I question my INFJness a lot these days. "Do INFJs often have a feeling they have to agree with other people or be liked by other random folks? Because sometimes I see it mentioned and I don't experience that at all! In fact in real life I disagree with others very often and it doesn't even bother me one bit. I'm also quite comfortable with being disliked by some unless it is a person close to me.
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Well, I kinda have that sentiment too.
I won't say it doesn't bother me. I think that's because I want to on some level connect, maybe not agree but at least make an attempt to understand to otherside. I think most of us cloister in corners because it seems difficult to get that from a lot of people. A lot of the time if I can find someone that will exchange ideas they also seem sick or unhealthy. Meaning the only people I find capable of debate where's its not arguing, but rather a session of conceding some times, and being validated others is from people that seem to have much deeper problems.

But my first thread here was asking about INFJ and how it seems like its categorized as week. A couple responded and they shared my view.
I don't see myself or being INFJ as being all that agreeable. If anything, I think I'd ignore you. If not, I'd challenge you to justify why you're worth the time.
If I saw you as worth the time, then my demeanor could be very different. I probably would all day talking about maybe anything. But being disliked means nothing unless I chose you. Then I don't walk away so easy. I think it cause I feel I misrepresented something or failed in another way. But if I find I didn't fail or misrepresent and you have a problem with me, well you're already forgotten about, so who cares. The pile of useless people gets bigger.
 
There seems to be a perception amongst some that INFJ's are somehow a push over

You only need to look at how many INFJ's have been at the forefront of popular movements attempting to put right social injusticies often against seemingly unsurmountable odds to realise that perception is put out there by people who either don't understand the first thing about INFJ's or who are attempting to undermine INFJ's
 
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