The "it" factor, x factor, whatever you wanna call it, it's unexplainable. Irl, my friends usually say to me " Brokendaniel, why so many people like you?, why so many want a piece of your broken being" and i answer back "i don't know my dear friend... i'm just a regular human being suffering for love, if i could just attract the woman i love, if i could just trade this unbearable sexyness for being with her, everything will be alright...." (and i end this line while looking dramatically into an imaginary camera and i sigh)
Now talking seriously, my arms and shoulders, regardless of my self image issues, and after getting enough feedback, i recognize that they are... Fine. Also i remember a distinct "compliment" by a co-worker that i have long and pretty fingers, and she made a rather dirty correlation between that and gynecologists.
It made me think of a gigolo advetisement ( DannyLongfingers, lover at your disposal), or maybe a dating site kind of thing, but i ain't that kind of man.