You Know You're An INFJ When....

Haha, that is a brilliant quote, can I erh. quote him/you on that?

I think you should try it. You'd have to be decent at the general gameplay first, but once you are, you'll move your efforts towards the metagame. I.e. the reading of players and "he thinks that I think that he thinks, so I'll act like he expects me to, even though I don't have the hand he'll think I'll have."

If you ever come to Norway I'll teach you everything I know. About poker. And vodka.

MissionHouse said:
That's a good point--I probably would start to think like that. My father would always say that the guys who regularly supplemented his income were "degenerate gamblers who go to the casinos to visit their money". It would be an interesting excercise, though, to see if I could use my people-reading skills to win at poker.
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Ciergan said:
...you want people to be childish but only if they're mature enough.

...you tell the voices to stop talking to themselves, it makes them look crazy.

...you add 1 + 1, you come up with a symmetrical design.

...you've been told by different teachers that you "color outside the lines" and "are always coloring within them."
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Haha. Finally... someone who understands! Seriously, though, being childish is just so natural and fun. Is this inferior Se at play? (i.e., lacking social "proportion" in display?)
 
Sure, you can quote my father on that, I'm sure he wouldn't mind.

Yeah, if I got the game-playing skills down I could probably go to town with the whole "meta" part of playing poker.
 
Profs can't follow your wild Ni

You enjoy watching other people browse the internet, from a distance. Just me maybe.

You have a meeting/event to go to and you're ready early but you sit and do nothing in that dead time because you're too fixed on the thing that's about to happen. Hah.

And of course when you post in a dead thread but don't give a shit if it makes you look weird.
 
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You know when you know you know you know and know that what other people think you think you know is different from what you know you think you know.
 
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So two days back I first came to know that I am an INFJ and then read up about INFJs - and I was almost in tears because I thought I'm not a freak after all. Only a week back I had told myself (again), that I am destined to be lonely all my life (although I am married and we have a lovely child who I am very close to), so I might as well get used to it.

In my case, my very strong communication skills, empathy and ability to read people are simply survival skills. I naturally developed these abilities over the last 20 years because at some level of my mind I decided that if I take care of other people's feelings, people would hurt me less. Which is true. They do hurt me less. I am very popular at work - I didn't understand why until very recently. Like all INFJs I am very good at being a nobody (while being a very important member of any team) and staying well away from the dangerous and the dishonest. I feel almost physically sick when I sense someone to be dishonest or insincere (which usually takes a few minutes to work out at the first meeting) - and from that point on I do everything in my power to avoid them. I have noticed that once I brand someone dishonest, I have great difficulty making eye contact with them, as if the eye contact is going to hurt me.

I learn German and Japanese in my spare time. I am Indian. I have lived in England for 10 years. My English is better than that of pretty much every English person I have met.

I have no friends. Many people think they are my friends though, but none of them knows anything about me. I know everything about them. I prefer having no friends. After being nice to everyone at work for eight hours and stopping people from killing each other, I am so exhausted by 9pm that if I never have human contact again, it'd be too soon.

I am very spiritual. I often talk to my car, my house, the house plants and my shoes. I usually can fix things that have minor problems by a) fixing my own thoughts and b) by gently talking to the item in question. This is not a joke. About a month back I fixed my satellite TV box which initially appeared to be beyond repair - all I did was gently stroking it while saying comforting things, and saying I was sorry that I left it powered on for so many months. Once again, not a joke.
Another instance: some time back one morning I needed to get up early. I hate alarm clocks. I was still up at midnight the night before and I was convinced that there was no chance I'd wake up in time. Seeing no other option, I told the little house plant next to my bed, "Yo, dude, please can you wake me up at 6am tomorrow? Please, I really need it." Then I went to sleep. I was in deep sleep, and suddenly I felt as if someone had shaken me, but there wasn't anypone else in the house then. I got up and saw the time was exactly 6 o'clock. I thanked the plant.

I see some differences with some people here. I absolutely don't do people watching. If it was possible I'd go live in a cave forever - as long as there were books and cafes and internet nearby :-)

The other difference I see is, I am very strongly libertarian/social conservative (75/25) whereas most people here seem to be on the left.
 
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When you have one friend who you can tell your confusing ideas and theories too...(Mines slowly floating away from me. NO! COME BACK! I'LL LOSE MY SANITY WITHOUT YOU!! XD)
 
bf2 said:
...In my case, my very strong communication skills, empathy and ability to read people are simply survival skills. I naturally developed these abilities over the last 20 years because at some level of my mind I decided that if I take care of other people's feelings, people would hurt me less. Which is true. They do hurt me less. I am very popular at work - I didn't understand why until very recently. Like all INFJs I am very good at being a nobody (while being a very important member of any team) and staying well away from the dangerous and the dishonest. I feel almost physically sick when I sense someone to be dishonest or insincere (which usually takes a few minutes to work out at the first meeting) - and from that point on I do everything in my power to avoid them. I have noticed that once I brand someone dishonest, I have great difficulty making eye contact with them, as if the eye contact is going to hurt me.

I learn German and Japanese in my spare time. I am Indian. I have lived in England for 10 years. My English is better than that of pretty much every English person I have met.

I have no friends. Many people think they are my friends though, but none of them knows anything about me. I know everything about them. I prefer having no friends. After being nice to everyone at work for eight hours and stopping people from killing each other, I am so exhausted by 9pm that if I never have human contact again, it'd be too soon.
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Do I ever know that feeling. My goal in life is to be a reclusive billionaire, I'd be great at that.
 
Billy said:
You know you're an INFJ when you meet new people (in person) and they say gay stuff like "I feel like I have known you my whole life" and people are always mad at you for not contacting them enough, even though you do try and they are busy when you do, but they never contact you initially and you build up resentment for this and eventually stop trying and everyone thinks you are a jerk because you dont put enough into the relationship, even though they are judging you by an arbitrary standard they dont use on anyone else simply for the fucking fact that they just like you MORE then most people because you make them feel good about themselves and are generally helpful and nurturing so when you dont come around they feel that absence MORESO then their "friends" they could care less about seeing...

Seriously. its fucking exhausting! On a personal note, I do my best to make myself available, and when I am around I do everything I can to maximize our fun/relationship and I dont take offense when you are busy, so why am I an asshole when you cant get ahold of me? Your entire rage is predicated by the fact that you are unaware of your own shortcomings in staying in touch and liking me MORE then you probably should simply because I make you "feel" better about yourself. SELFISH DICKS!

/rant over.
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I cannot tell you how much I relate to this especially now that I'm homeschooled. I tried to keep in contact with them when I had the chance and thought they couldn't that much because they were still in school. So one day I got busy and there was no turning back! I called, texted, and Facebooked them and all their reactions were the same--cold! Never again will I put myself out there for friends and I know they've been talking about me together since then bcuz one of the guys tweeted me. I tweeted back and that was it. No more conversation. Nada.
What you said was true!
 
IntrovertAlert said:
When you feel in a certain moment that you have every right to be rude to someone so you are... then you hate yourself for it seconds later. Good times.
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Even if any objective source would agree that they fully deserved it.

OR

Even if they've probably already forgotten about it.
 
This isnt really infj. More just intuitive.

When you like a song on pandora because you know that you might like it in the future when you are in a different mood. Even though you don't like it at the moment.
 
When a song or line from a movie pops up in your head and later on that day the movie ends up playing on tv, or the song ends up playing in the mall or a bar or something like that.
 
When you can almost read people's thoughts and if you tell them they get freaked out pupils dilate and then half the time they deny you were right.
When you see something going on with someone emotionally that they are not yet aware of and you tell them about it. They say you are wrong at the time but later come back and apologize and say you were right after all.
When you never really feel accepted by anyone even though you know in your mind that you are fully accepted by a few.
When your inner thought life is so complicated that you confuse yourself with your own complexity.
When you find humor in the strangest things that no one else seems to see.
When you beat your self up for what you did wrong in a given situation for months afterwards even though others have moved on and forgiven you.
When you are somehow so inexplicably good at mediating between two sides and able to bring them together to understand each others views peacefully.
When you love so deep it hurts.
When that same love is consistantly not reciprocated it leads you into believing you are not trying hard enough.
When all you want is to be completely open and honest with everyone and when you are they get freaked out.
 
Jill Hives said:
You know you are an INFJ when you have a headache but you still won't ask your friends to turn down the radio because you want them to enjoy themselves more than you care that you are in pain.

edit - This might have more to do with my own assertiveness issues than INFJness. But it seems likely other INFJs have suffered discomfort in the interest of pleasing other people.
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I'm trying this "white noise" thing on my stereo when neighbors are mowing, it's almost like it gives you something else to focus on and you go into a trance thinking about it, then fall asleep.

If that doesn't work I could always try "black noise"

[video=youtube;TZ6xUNpEyXk]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZ6xUNpEyXk[/video]
 
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