Yeah, I'm not saying there's not some truth to it. Like domestic violence especially. One of my buddies with a previous ZERO criminal record got arrested for "abusing" his girlfriend. The reality is she was psychotic. She punched him in the face, HARD, more than once, hit his best galpal in town visiting, knocked her into the tub, blood everywhere. So one day, when she hit him in the face, I think he slapped her maybe? and then she went apeshit and started clawing him, he like held her down the best he could, she had a few bruises from it and she called the police. They arrested HIM. And he had to do like 100 hours community service, like 25 anger management classes, and a stain on his record.
yes, you can argue, that's what you get for dating a crazy b**** or that he shouldn't have slapped her (IMO, she might have had that coming) but the cops came, no questions, he was the instigator. FAR from the truth.