wow. you are the man saying it like that made it so much more clearer. granted i have times of both, but i think the best fit type is glaringly obvious now.
"INFJs want to define things, understand things, make decisions (so much that we often refuse to make them until we are certain), and put things in boxes. INFJs love harmony that stems from order, and having everything neatly defined and in its correct place, whether physically, intellectually, or emotionally brings us that harmony. INFJs feel harmony by making plans. INFJs are willing to suffer to help others - we are moved by a desire to help more than the suffering of others. INFJs will help when there is no need."
that describes me so well (except im not very physically organized.)
I want to understand and define things. the understanding i can see as being INFJ but i always thought the defining thing was an NT thing. People have told me that i spend too much time trying to define and understand something, which can cause me to think very black and white at times.
"INFPs want to avoid labels, avoid obligations, and remove things from boxes. I've noticed that labels, obligations, and even concepts in boxes are offensive to a lot of INFPs. INFPs seem to want harmony to result from all restrictions being removed and everything going in whatever direction it wants, constantly changing. INFPs feel constricted by plans. INFPs want to help others who are suffering - they are moved by the plight of others more than a desire to help. INFPs are motivated to help by need."
this describes me less. even though i want to help when there is need, i want to help all the time anyway. and things to transcend labels, but if a label helps something to be better understood, without hindering the thing or one being labeled, then it's actually a really good thing.
thank you sooooooo much! (i would give you a man-hug, but that could be a lil bit awkward
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