Mithrandir
Three
- MBTI
- INTP
- Enneagram
- 5w4 sx/sp
I recently met and am becoming good friends with an INFJ, and am wondering what kind of advice a group of INFJs would have for this INTP in regard to things I should do or avoid in our friendship. We are both males in our 30s if that makes a difference.
We share a lot of interests and have great conversations, but sometimes I feel like I struggle with reassuring his thoughts, ideas, and excitement, since I typically extravert humor and ideas instead of emotion or expression. I don't find the idea of myself practicing extroverted feeling to be very fruitful since it just tends to come out childish, unnatural, and generally awkward. It's not in my toolkit so to speak. Should I make more of an effort to plainly state my enthusiasm? Is that even necessary? If so, should it be on a regular basis or is a one-time blanket statement enough? I hate the idea of inadvertently discouraging him with my lack of expressive feedback.
Other than that, any advice from your personal experience with INTPs would be helpful. You know, things that irk you, you like about them, or what you wish they did, etc... Furthermore, what are some things about INFJs that I should be aware of or watch out for.
Thanks for any and all advice. I find good friendships are rare and take a lot of work.
(and just so you have an idea of what kinda crazy you're dealing with here, I originally put a smiley at the end of that last sentence but deleted it because it felt disingenuous......yep)
We share a lot of interests and have great conversations, but sometimes I feel like I struggle with reassuring his thoughts, ideas, and excitement, since I typically extravert humor and ideas instead of emotion or expression. I don't find the idea of myself practicing extroverted feeling to be very fruitful since it just tends to come out childish, unnatural, and generally awkward. It's not in my toolkit so to speak. Should I make more of an effort to plainly state my enthusiasm? Is that even necessary? If so, should it be on a regular basis or is a one-time blanket statement enough? I hate the idea of inadvertently discouraging him with my lack of expressive feedback.
Other than that, any advice from your personal experience with INTPs would be helpful. You know, things that irk you, you like about them, or what you wish they did, etc... Furthermore, what are some things about INFJs that I should be aware of or watch out for.
Thanks for any and all advice. I find good friendships are rare and take a lot of work.
(and just so you have an idea of what kinda crazy you're dealing with here, I originally put a smiley at the end of that last sentence but deleted it because it felt disingenuous......yep)