lostENTP
Newbie
- MBTI
- ENFJ
Hi all,
I talked about my situation in another thread but as it became a bit weird cause the topic diverted a lot I decided to create a new one to update my situation. In summary, I'm an ENFJ and have an intense crush on an INFJ, we are both married, I don't know his marital situation but I guess he's happy, I'm also relatively happy in my marital life, but is not perfect, we have up and downs and a relatively poor sexual life due to stress and maybe tiredness but I guess this is typical in long-term marriages so I can live with it....or at least I could until I found my INFJ....
He´s amazing, I have the feeling we have a deep connection, he´s super nice and warm with me, he gazes at me secretly and sometimes I catch him and we both smile, he makes me pictures secretly when we are together and then sends them to me, we laugh together, we have the same sense of humor, we deeply understand others behaviors and we speak to each other just with a look, he´s sweet, I know he likes me, deep in my gut I know he might have something like a crush on me also, but we work together and we respect each other so much.
The thing is that sometimes I have the feeling I cant handle this situation anymore, I dream we are together, I dream we make love and live a beautiful life, and I'm always daydreaming of us together. Sometimes I think I should leave my job to escape from this, but I love it, and I'm very good at it and I don't want to leave it just because I'm risking my emotional life. But I can't get rid of this feeling...never felt this way before, Am I in love, or is it just a crush? What should I do? How can I forget the feelings that I have?
I talked about my situation in another thread but as it became a bit weird cause the topic diverted a lot I decided to create a new one to update my situation. In summary, I'm an ENFJ and have an intense crush on an INFJ, we are both married, I don't know his marital situation but I guess he's happy, I'm also relatively happy in my marital life, but is not perfect, we have up and downs and a relatively poor sexual life due to stress and maybe tiredness but I guess this is typical in long-term marriages so I can live with it....or at least I could until I found my INFJ....
He´s amazing, I have the feeling we have a deep connection, he´s super nice and warm with me, he gazes at me secretly and sometimes I catch him and we both smile, he makes me pictures secretly when we are together and then sends them to me, we laugh together, we have the same sense of humor, we deeply understand others behaviors and we speak to each other just with a look, he´s sweet, I know he likes me, deep in my gut I know he might have something like a crush on me also, but we work together and we respect each other so much.
The thing is that sometimes I have the feeling I cant handle this situation anymore, I dream we are together, I dream we make love and live a beautiful life, and I'm always daydreaming of us together. Sometimes I think I should leave my job to escape from this, but I love it, and I'm very good at it and I don't want to leave it just because I'm risking my emotional life. But I can't get rid of this feeling...never felt this way before, Am I in love, or is it just a crush? What should I do? How can I forget the feelings that I have?