Are Non-INFJs Still Welcome Here?

Are non INFJs still welcome here?

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the said:
When I read over the thread: https://www.infjs.com/threads/qualifications-for-being-a-snuggle-bunny.33167/ its like you are remembering a totally different thread.
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Ha ha @Scientia is cray cray. I ignore her. She didn't mean all INTJ are reptilian (I think..)

@the unfortunately INFJ can get a little exasperated being frequently told "we're TOO nice, we're CUDDLY/SNUGGLY etc " when that happens its possible for the Stubborn INFJ to appear and get grumpy about it, even when no insult was intended.

I'm guessing that INTJ aren't often accused of these terrible character flaws. ;) in fairness like a typical INFJ she did then offer to make up.
Weird bunch INFJ, I don't like em..
 
Peppermint said:
But Flavus, you're an INFJ
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James said:
Ha ha @Scientia is cray cray. I ignore her. She didn't mean all INTJ are reptilian (I think..)

@the unfortunately INFJ can get a little exasperated being frequently told "we're TOO nice, we're CUDDLY/SNUGGLY etc " when that happens its possible for the Stubborn INFJ to appear and get grumpy about it, even when no insult was intended.

I'm guessing that INTJ aren't often accused of these terrible character flaws. ;) in fairness like a typical INFJ she did then offer to make up.
Weird bunch INFJ, I don't like em..
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My best friend is INTJ and she is awesome but can appear cold at times. Oh dear, maybe I am just cranky today. I will leave quietly...
 
James said:
Ha ha @Scientia is cray cray. I ignore her. She didn't mean all INTJ are reptilian (I think..)

@the unfortunately INFJ can get a little exasperated being frequently told "we're TOO nice, we're CUDDLY/SNUGGLY etc " when that happens its possible for the Stubborn INFJ to appear and get grumpy about it, even when no insult was intended.

I'm guessing that INTJ aren't often accused of these terrible character flaws. ;) in fairness like a typical INFJ she did then offer to make up.
Weird bunch INFJ, I don't like em..
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Do INFJs not like to snuggle or cuddle?
 
I've only known 2 INFJs in real life. One male one female. The female wanted to cuddle... woo hoo. The male, well uhm that would have been awkward. Oh I hug my male friends too know sometimes. Nothing wrong. Most of my male friends are feelers and they welcome the hug from this TE user. :). I think they know I'm not much of a hugger so they try to hug me first when saying goodbye, then I hug back. Lol
 
the said:
Do INFJs not like to snuggle or cuddle?
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In truth ? I think INFJ (me anyway) can be uncomfortable with it. We do it, but on our terms. We get those type comments quite a bit, and in all honesty at times it can feel like others are mocking us, depending on the situation and tone. I've had it said to me in a very patronising way, and to use the language of Mr Trump "wanted to punch them in the face" lol.

Naturally I instead suggested counselling... ;) and gave them a dirty look. This is the "way of the INFJ"
 
Flavus Aquila said:
Are non-INFJs still welcome here?
(Can other types be welcomed, if they don't think, speak and act exactly like an INFJ)?

Asking because there's been a number of INFJ members sending conflicting messages recently.
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Would be a bit silly if people weren't welcome. Individuals aren't defined by their MBTI, and imho you can't judge a person by the outcome of a non-evidence based questionnaire.
 
Gale said:
I remember there was an anti-INFP and anti other type vibe here at one time, that made it toxic to be here. But after a while, that went away, and people learned to appreciate each other more beyond type. If this continued, I would not be here. So, I appreciate that things have changed, and that we are more tolerant of all types. Any anti non-infj sentiment should not be stated and should be squashed. As @hush said, we will have disagreements with each other, but we need to learn to engage with each other as a community without fighting each other. Understand there will be differences, but those differences are not ones of inferiority or inadequacy. Wanting everyone to feel or think like us destroys individuality. We all could learn to appreciate each other more and quit insulting, attacking, or demeaning each other. Let the egos go, and just learn to value each other's contribution. *end speech . . . waits for applause . . . hears crickets instead :D*
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*stands up and shouts and claps*

the said:
Do INFJs not like to snuggle or cuddle?
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i dont. i dont even want to be touched.
 
If I'm right @Flavus Aquila (is obviously not an INFJ but) was raised by two INFJ's. Maybe that's why he likes it being here among us, it's like a 'home from home' so to speak.
 
I think if I am ever (apparently since I never intend it) abrasive, it's only in that I don't believe in agreeing to disagree. I think agreeing to disagree is far too practical an approach, and I prefer an approach where we keep generating possible angles on the situation until either agreement is reached or both parties have their heads spinning and agree they don't know anything.
Agreeing to disagree usually means one or both is overly sure of something.

(Exception: if something is just a matter of a subjective dislike, like someone finding the taste of Italian food more pleasing than Mediterranean....then I don't see this as a disagreement so much as a distinction about palates.)


Otherwise, I generally believe in kind, supportive discussion.

And am glad non-INFJ are welcome here :)
 
It wouldn't really make sense for non-INFJs to not be welcome, because of the issue of mistyping. It can be very difficult to gain a decent level of certainty of what your type is, so of those who type as INFJ, a fair few won't be that type. We'd have to start scrutinising people for whether they're really INFJ which sounds kinda absurd. So I certainly vote "all types welcome" - and not for the reason I wrote, so much, but for the fact that variability will help more than hurt (INFJ is still the majority type of course) and it is better to be inclusive.
 
That's true too; not only are there disputes on types, there are disputes on how to best frame/define the system! It's far from a certain enterprise, and as I never tire of pointing out, someone who hasn't seen the differences among the various schools (Myers, Beebe, socionics, Jung, etc) that are getting at the rough same ideas might not be aware of the sheer extent to which these ideas are experimental.

More often than not my question is: if you're disputing someone's type, to what extent can we generalize this dispute to a dispute about how the system is best framed?
 
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