Gaze
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Ok. So I just recently located my very best childhood friend...
I mean, it had been eight years since we last spoke and up to recently, I was still pining away for her--missing her friendship and our connection.
After talking to her a few times, I've realized that each conversation has been only about her. She has not asked me a question--and I feel the entire conversation is me... counseling her through her many issues and problems.
I suspect she has a Histrionic/Narcissistic thing going on... and am now realizing that I idealized our friendship and held it so high because I had a touch of co-dependancy even as a teenager.
I don't think it is possible for me to have a really deep and meaningful and mutual friendship with her, because my definition of what that is has drastically changed over these eight years.
This friendship, I would say, is to be a superficial one. I will always answer the phone when she calls and listen to her, but for my own well-being I have to keep her at arms length else I become consumed with her problems again..
I have a friend, and I'm going through something slightly similar. I won't speak for her, but I feel that she can't relate to my concerns or issues as much as I can hers, and this is disappointing me because she is a close friend. Not a good model for strong much less deep frienship.
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