My experience with enfjs as well. They can be very intimidating actually! They look at you like they just see everything. I don't think it's intentional because those I've known are actually incredibly kind. Just an enfj thing.
n my experience there are also good people who don't like to feel 'seen'. It can be tricky because an INFJ might kinda want to make them feel seen because they like them, so they have to be careful
I don't think it's actually possible to shut it off, any more than we can stop seeing what people are wearing, hear what they are saying, what their expressions are. For me, to not look is rather like suggesting we should shut our eyes when we talk to someone. What we do with what we are aware of is something else again and I agree very much with what @Kgal said. Just because someone has a strange taste in fashion doesn't mean we should comment on it but we still notice it - it's the same with how people behave. It will however colour how I respond to people below the surface.
LOL yes! You've really got what INFJ is all about .....
I agree, but I don't think they want people to know that ...
Yep, pretty incredible characters.
ENFJs have the depths of a deep dark lake within them and an enviable social ease that gives them an ascendancy in company. Our depths are much deeper, deeper than the stars and higher than the heavens - we bow to no ENFJ because we can see what they cannot, nor they to us because they click among people in ways that we don't. We are equals in our different ways - but their life is outside and they cannot see the magic that is ours if we accept it.
You see the same..
No not really, because the difference between extraversion and introversion is fundamental. The 'I' of an extravert is on the surface of their eyes, both their physical ones, and those of their consciousness - you only have to glance at them to see this. An introvert's 'I' is so obviously looking inwards while their physical eyes look outward. Our experience of the world is quite different as a result and so is the way we orient to it.
Yeah, it's not possible to shut it off, but it's possible to ignore details/decide the importance of what you perceive, to some extent at least. I think everyone who's not a savant of some sort does this automatically though, whether it's a mental image or an actual image we're looking at. Moods and vibes however, that's something I can't ignore successfully.
Yes it’s like seeing - we can avoid noticing to some extent. I tend to not actually look at people I’m not actually engaged with.
I had an enfj supervisor who was terrifying at first lol. Just seemed like she saw directly into you when speaking. At first she actually seemed like an introvert but that was me generalizing because she wasn't a bubbly extrovert. (We had an ENFP in the office who was into mbti and that's how we found out everyone's types. She had people taking the test.)But I worked a shift with the ENFJ supervisor once when we were short staffed and I learned A LOT from her in that one shift about people and their behaviors. She was very insightful and warm once you actually talked to her. I also had an ENFJ roommate who was a lot like that.