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Let us end this here. I believe my contribution to Odyne's question is made and other viewpoints should have room for airing. I would in fact like to see how anyone can draw an enforceable line on this concept beyond those I've mentioned.
And it is much appreciated, Kiu. None of the sources I looked up mentioned how this concept could be used maliciously to ruin friendship, justify privacy intrusion and nonsensical jealousy and possessiveness.
However, I see this happening with other concepts as well, including sexual affairs, etc. The problem would be the person and not the notion itself.
Thanks for sharing. :]
As a perspective added to the topic as a whole:
Personally, during one of my relationships (the best I've had mind you) my ex was very close friends with a female friend, a childhood friend, and not once did I ever question his feelings for me. His actions met his words, and the difference between the nature his feelings for me and for his friend were stark and obvious. She was also kind enough to give us the space we needed to build that connection necessary for our relationship. I am also lucky enough to have her friendship until this day.
But then again, I was also involved with someone who demanded emotional intimacy and investment from my part, but then refused (not directly, but deceitfully) to return the same level of trust and security. In that light, I would say he was the one who was trying to "own" me, and not the other way around.
In general, I would say a healthy relationship between two healthy people is built on that connection where trust runs deep, needs are met by each other, as well as open communication.
I don't think the concept itself is faulty, but I do think that, unlike physical infidelity, it is hard to find evidence of it soon enough to fix the problem.. to the point where the person who is engaging in it may not even be aware of it happening.
Emotions are difficult to understand.