Tulip
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I came across an article with lists of characteristics of emotionally abused people. They appear to overlap with the traits of a number of Enneagram types:
http://eqi.org/signs_of_emotionally_abused_people.htm
There have been debates over whether Enneagram types are inborn or developed during the early stages of a life.
If Enneagram types are inborn, do you think emotionally abusive experience forms other part of a person's personality outside of their primary type and will affect how they come across to others?
What if the person experiences prolonged emotional abuse at a later stage in life other than the formative years?
http://eqi.org/signs_of_emotionally_abused_people.htm
There have been debates over whether Enneagram types are inborn or developed during the early stages of a life.
If Enneagram types are inborn, do you think emotionally abusive experience forms other part of a person's personality outside of their primary type and will affect how they come across to others?
What if the person experiences prolonged emotional abuse at a later stage in life other than the formative years?
What is Emotional Abuse?
Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control and subjugate another human being through the use of fear, humiliation, intimidation, guilt, coercion, manipulation etc. Emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics, such as repeated disapproval or even the refusal to ever be pleased.
Emotional abuse is like brain washing in that it systematically wears away at the victim's self-confidence, sense of self-worth, trust in their own perceptions, and self-concept. Whether it is done by constant berating and belittling, by intimidation, or under the guise of "guidance," "teaching", or "advice," the results are similar. Eventually, the recipient of the abuse loses all sense of self and remnants of personal value. Emotional abuse cuts to the very core of a person, creating scars that may be far deeper and more lasting that physical ones. In fact there is research to this effect. With emotional abuse, the insults, insinuations, criticism and accusations slowly eat away at the victim's self-esteem until she is incapable of judging the situation realistically. She has become so beaten down emotionally that she blames herself for the abuse. Her self-esteem is so low that she clings to the abuser.
Emotional abuse victims can become so convinced that they are worthless that they believe that no one else could want them. They stay in abusive situations because they believe they have nowhere else to go. Their ultimate fear is being all alone.
http://eqi.org/eabuse1.htm
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