Hi,
I was wondering how this sort of relationship would work out.
You see my mother is an ENFJ and I have trouble from time to time working with her.
Shes not all hugs and love. Shes very much into discipline and she always telling me what to do.
When I don't listen to her she rubs in my face. I've given up listening to myself. She's always right about everything. I have very little confidence in my own decisions now. I've failed art school twice in a row. I'm depressed that I have failed, now my mum wants me to stay home and look after the kids (my siblings) and work while her and my younger brother attend music school next year (by the way they got top marks this year).
Everyone tells me how cool she is, and how I look like her etc. but this makes me feel sad.
My older sister says that my mum talks about how great I am to other people, but in my eyes often to me (not enough) I need to be told these things as I can't sense them emotionally.
Work to me means allot especially when its contributing to my future. If I can't work one on one with a tutor It makes it a whole lot harder to learn (I have asperger's disorder).
I always try to make my mother proud. I want to make her proud of me in something that I'm happy doing.
Me and mum argue allot about my future and plans. For me I am either right or I am wrong, I feel like that am never right.
My dad (INTP) says I'm over exaggerating the truth, which gives me even less confidence in myself in what I say.
I feel like Im not worthy of being in my mums presence, I feel stupid around her.
My dad says that I'm like my mother emotionally (this makes me annoyed as she tends to overreact over things)
I know what I want to do and what I want to study. I've made mistakes, i'll admit that, I have a passion for art but not as a career more as a hobby. I really want to do film (since I was a little girl). I thought that studying art would serve as a good foundation.
But I feel that she doesn't belive in me. This doesn't motivate me, It drags me down. She rarely ever looks at my work.
My family is on rocky ground at the moment and my mother and father are always fighting. My mother blames everything on my father and my father is overworking himself. I'm worried about him.
I dislike my mother at the moment for many reasons;
She blames everyone else.
She makes promises all the time and fails to keep them.
She says that we a burden for her and that she wants to move away from us.
Whenever I try to tell her any of this she just tells me I don't what I'm talking about and tells me to go away.
I feel very heart broken and I find recently that I have been crying more often than usual.
I am very confused right now.
All I want is for my mother to love me and my family.
So If there are any parents (or anyone that can help) out there can you help me and tell me what I need to do?
I was wondering how this sort of relationship would work out.
You see my mother is an ENFJ and I have trouble from time to time working with her.
Shes not all hugs and love. Shes very much into discipline and she always telling me what to do.
When I don't listen to her she rubs in my face. I've given up listening to myself. She's always right about everything. I have very little confidence in my own decisions now. I've failed art school twice in a row. I'm depressed that I have failed, now my mum wants me to stay home and look after the kids (my siblings) and work while her and my younger brother attend music school next year (by the way they got top marks this year).
Everyone tells me how cool she is, and how I look like her etc. but this makes me feel sad.
My older sister says that my mum talks about how great I am to other people, but in my eyes often to me (not enough) I need to be told these things as I can't sense them emotionally.
Work to me means allot especially when its contributing to my future. If I can't work one on one with a tutor It makes it a whole lot harder to learn (I have asperger's disorder).
I always try to make my mother proud. I want to make her proud of me in something that I'm happy doing.
Me and mum argue allot about my future and plans. For me I am either right or I am wrong, I feel like that am never right.
My dad (INTP) says I'm over exaggerating the truth, which gives me even less confidence in myself in what I say.
I feel like Im not worthy of being in my mums presence, I feel stupid around her.
My dad says that I'm like my mother emotionally (this makes me annoyed as she tends to overreact over things)
I know what I want to do and what I want to study. I've made mistakes, i'll admit that, I have a passion for art but not as a career more as a hobby. I really want to do film (since I was a little girl). I thought that studying art would serve as a good foundation.
But I feel that she doesn't belive in me. This doesn't motivate me, It drags me down. She rarely ever looks at my work.
My family is on rocky ground at the moment and my mother and father are always fighting. My mother blames everything on my father and my father is overworking himself. I'm worried about him.
I dislike my mother at the moment for many reasons;
She blames everyone else.
She makes promises all the time and fails to keep them.
She says that we a burden for her and that she wants to move away from us.
Whenever I try to tell her any of this she just tells me I don't what I'm talking about and tells me to go away.
I feel very heart broken and I find recently that I have been crying more often than usual.
I am very confused right now.
All I want is for my mother to love me and my family.

So If there are any parents (or anyone that can help) out there can you help me and tell me what I need to do?