Ever feel uncomfortable with the idea of someone being attracted to you?

Phoenix Down said:
I usually don't have this problem since I'm pretty oblivious. (And quite frankly, its a lot more convenient for me to be that way)

Although I do find it a little annoying when I do know people are attracted to me because if they say anything. Since I'm usually not interested at all, It's on me to turn them down.

This is a problem because I happen to be moderately attractive. *sigh*

Now if they were attracted to my mind, that would be totally different. I Always welcome that.
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Not too often, unless A. they are in a position of authority over me, 2. They are taken already, and 3. If its a girl.
Naturally, if the feeling isn't mutual I could feel uncomfortable, but only if I don't see a way of getting around it. I can usually get around it.
 
I'm usually okay with it unless they start overdoing it or get creepy. In high school there was some girl who wrote me a couple anonymous poems throughout the year. Thought was kinda neat, but the words were way too serious when I had no interest in her. She also played piano for me when I was doing a competition on saxophone so it was kinda awkward pretending not to know the poems were from her.
 
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mf said:
I'm usually okay with it unless they start overdoing it or get creepy. In high school there was some girl who wrote me a couple anonymous poems throughout the year. Thought was kinda neat, but the words were way too serious when I had no interest in her. She also played piano for me when I was doing a competition on saxophone so it was kinda awkward pretending not to know the poems were from her.
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During school and even afterwards my mate would always tell me of these complete mingers that fancied me to try and make me feel uncomfortable. My answer was always "at least someone does", and I thought no more of it. I don't feel uncomfortable with it at all, in fact I take it as a compliment.

Same goes for a gay dude who once fancied me who I've since become friends with.
 
DoveAlexa said:
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Not fixed. I'd be offended.
Seen that two and a half men episode where Jon is turned down by his gay friend who goes on to say that Charlie is way more attractive?

Alan is Straight, and gives the typical male response.
 
Whenever I know someone is attracted to me in more than a friendly manner, I get scared. It goes beyond uncomfort. People want what they want and sometimes, they'll do anything to have it. These actions terrify me.
 
See . . . I'm kinda torn on this issue. ;) I was always one of the shy ones in school who had major crushes on the guy. I'd look and then giggle and whisper to my bestfriend about him :D
 
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I will also say this.

If someone I find very attractive walks up and says the same to me

Me: *melt*
 
IndigoSensor said:
I will also say this.

If someone I find very attractive walks up and says the same to me

Me: *melt*
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Dude, practically everyone on the forum finds you attractive. Straight guys and asexuals included. You may as well assume the whole world does unless they walk up and say otherwise.
 
Before I really started dating or having relationships, yes. It was very discomforting and awkward..I think because I was not interested in being seen as a sexual being (in any minute way) by anybody... I was interested in sex. I had a sexuality I was attracted to other people.. But I just didn't want to play it out. Chalk that up to self-confidence perhaps, but I got a feeling of not being so much in control when I realized I produced an effect on someone I did not intend to. Just didn't know what to do with that.


I was 21 before I had my first boyfriend, and now I don't feel so awkward about it when someone likes me.
 
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I used to have a very carefully cultivated obliviousness when it came to these cases.
Then I had what I can only describe nicely as a "wake up call."

Yes. It is extremely awkward to have people attracted to you who you are not attracted to. I hear all the time that guys hate it when girls give them bs about why they won't go out with them - that they'd rather hear that the girl just isn't attracted if that's the truth.
But this is a lie. There is no 'nice' way to tell a guy you don't feel the same way and won't go out with him.

A few guys even get really bitter and mean about it. Some get really depressed or try to guilt you into going out with them anyway (seriously, does this ever work?).
If the guy is a real player he might not take "NO" for an answer and continue on - being really pushy about it.
 
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