Female Porn

[Trifoilum]

I'm not a woman, but I am an avid reader of adult romance genre fiction. So I can't give my perspective as a woman, but I can give my perspective as a reader. I think that the idea that romance fiction is the female analogue to porn vids is erroneous.

I think that for most readers, the release provided by these fictions is emotional, not sexual. They want a time out from a busy life that asks much and provides little in the way of care, affection, or appreciation. A closer analogue to pornographic films would be erotic fiction.

I mention these things because I think that there are important problems involved in comparing pornographic films with adult romance genre fiction. Saying "romance books are porn films for women" implies that "porn films are romance novels for men" which is absolutely not the same thing at all, and which eclipses the problems that are not involved in the production of romance fiction, but are inherent to the production of pornographic films. Such as - is it ethical to purchase porn? How are condoms used in porn? What are the working conditions of porn performers, and what are the standards by which their pay is determined? What are the other activities of pornographic production studios? The comparison makes it seem like those problems aren't even there, it dismisses them, prevents them from being discussed properly.

And this, agreed completely.

There are lots of adult erotic fiction, a lot are aimed towards women too.

(I'm someone who reads romance fiction excessively, but my views have been expressed beautifully here, so I cannot add much.

 

[Trent]

This, essentially.

I am sure a lot of women watch porn or are aroused visually (Magic Mike, anyone?), just as how a lot of men are aroused emotionally / via romance.
But social conditioning and stereotypes probably silences them, if not pushing them into the shadows because it's somehow feels wrong.

Trifolium, now, you bring up a good point. Why in the world did I even pose the question? Why would society or culture have such a presentation? You mentioned social conditioning. So, what is the societal add or benefit of that? Starting to sound like conspiracy, but these are the facts.

 

[cvp12gh5]

Where are the mods?!??

You should be banned for this indecency, Stuart.

 

[cvp12gh5]

I know that this may sound a bit odd, but I don't find porn appealing at all.

A few words that come to mind are: Corny, absurd, and fake.

 

[drummergirlbk]

I know that this may sound a bit odd, but I don't find porn appealing at all.

A few words that come to mind are: Corny, absurd, and fake.

Agree with this completely.

I'm sapiosexual, so for me it's very difficult to get "turned on" simply based on some physical or emotional aspect of a person, and it makes even less since when it's simply in digital form. I may be too vanilla, but I don't find romance novels, fifty shades of grey, or explicit porn appealing whatsoever. I have better things to do with my time. I'm about to get married pretty soon, so if I need an outlet to explore sexuality, then I have something better than that.

 

[slant]

I can't be asked to generalize my entire gender and be the "voice" of all women.

You might as well ask what is pornographic to black people and expect a blanket response to be accurate.

 

[zarcos]

I can't be asked to generalize my entire gender and be the "voice" of all women.

You might as well ask what is pornographic to black people and expect a blanket response to be accurate.

I've found this to be the most accurate answer if the information collected by my own inquiry is valid. Most women I know or have asked this question of just like the same porn as guys (yes, even the weird stuff), which is to say there is no collective preference for one type or another. Their attention just tends to (but doesn't always) fall upon the male 'actor' rather than the female, assuming they're straight.

I've found that you can get an honest answer to nearly any question when phrased correctly with the correct cadence, demeanor and tone.

 

[Ghoulia Yelps]

Enjoyment of porn requires a suspension of disbelief, as well as a blind eye regarding the porn stars welfare etc. many of course being bullied, mind controlled, addicted to drugs, rape victims etc who have no way of escaping the porn industry. Many of the most vile and nasty porn movies, involving children and animals, rape, gagging, violence, anal, spit roasting etc the actresses are real victims of abuse by criminal gangs. It's hard to see any form of empowerment in performing or viewing this kind of thing as entertainment.

Love is erotic without looking at bits and hearing people crying in pain.

Did I mention I'm asexual?

 

[Trifoilum]

Trifolium, now, you bring up a good point. Why in the world did I even pose the question? Why would society or culture have such a presentation? You mentioned social conditioning. So, what is the societal add or benefit of that? Starting to sound like conspiracy, but these are the facts.

Just read this, sorry.

Because the current status quo is that ONLY men are driven by his libido. ONLY men are lustful creatures.

And at the same time they also put love as a woman's realm.
This is related to the idea that it's a woman's task to be a 'guardian' to their sexuality.
Love and all its emotional vulnerabilities complexities are only open to women. For men to attempt to do so is to break the status quo and so many people are trying to stop it by labeling them 'sappy', 'sissy', 'hopeless romantic', etc.

The core of the benefit is just that. The protection of a status quo.

 

[Ghoulia Yelps]

For women the goal is different. Sex and orgasm is pleasure, pregnancy is painful and inconvenient. Spreading your seed for a male is fun and has no repercussions. Women generally who want sex for fun and pleasure are not seeking to be fertilised.