Gender equality will be the result of feminism running its course and patriarchal-minded people stepping down a bit.
Well, how likely is that? Not very as far as I can see. Feminism should be women being women and that's it.
...wut.
First of all, what is 'being women'?
I have to argue that this notion is completely bovine dungish because-- the notion of being a women is as complex and occasionally contradictive as much as it is for men.
Sociohistorically what is considered a good woman and man evolves, changes, and shifts depending on the time, circumstances, situation, and geographical locations. From this angle, your statement does not make sense, I'm afraid.
And even if we're approaching it from a spiritual, universal perspective, the old patriarchal values are completely imbalanced. Feminism aimed for equality-- and in some ways, a balanced state. Where both women and men can possess ANY traits; any strength and interest and goodness they have, desire, and aimed.
Don't worry about men and what we're doing. Show the world what women are capable of besides being like men.
We don't need women to be like men, that's what men are for. But we don't know what Woman's true value is anymore.
See above re: Patriarchy. A lot of the values and understanding made and embedded within a lot of philosophy are the result of a patriarchal culture, trying to 'separate', 'subjugate', and 'prevent'.
In the spiritual sense, it's imbalanced and imperfect. Ultimately the expectation is 'one shall complete the other', but that notion has proven itself again and again to be ineffective and abusive.
And I don't think feminist (at least the current wave) desires anything like 'women becoming men'; Again, what do you think is a woman's true value?
if anything, it is trying its best to be inclusive. Women can be feminine or masculine; the same as men. Feminism works for me in that it helps each and everyone to be their best selves-- instead of what 'society' wants them to be
She has been sidelined and belittled too much over a LONG period of time and working a job isn't enough.
Woman's true value is not going to be found by managing to 'pull your weight' in the very society that has kept Her down.
She has to show society what it has been MISSING by treating Her badly and not recognising Her INNATE value.
I agree with your two statements but ultimately not with the conclusion-- trying to 'separate' won't do women, or men, or mankind as a whole, or society, or feminism, any good.
It's not as much as it's a matter of womankind in spiritual terms but in its ideal form, men is also supported.
You are made differently for a reason. We ARE definitely missing out. But I have no real idea how. On the bigger national/global scale.
I know what individual women bring to me personally but these same women then have to adapt to society and so fuel the patriarchy further.
I DON'T EVEN ABOUT THIS ONE.
Man, can you explain your views more?
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Trifolium
It seems like we largely agree on at least one issue: the reason men are overrepresented in suicide statistics is that there is a cultural norm which dictates that men should be strong and independent, wheras women are allowed to seek help without being stigmatized for it. I know that in trying to break down traditional gender roles, the feminist movement
is actually trying to influence our culture for the better, but I stand by what I said about it not being as high on their priority list as it perhaps should be if they were truly interested in solving the difficulties men face in their daily life.
Two layers of notions, I think.
One is the fact that women are still facing a lot of prejudice, discrimination, and injustice. Perhaps not ALL problems can fall into this point, but compared to men's one FATAL issue affecting their lives, women had-- how many more?
Two is more reactionary, sort of like "OH, so now you also want feminists to solve YOUR cultural problems?" which as much as it is brash, works. Again, the notion is a bit 'WHAT ABOUT TEH MENNZZZZ'; which is like white people claiming 'but white people are oppressed too! WHY ARE YOU NOT SOLVING OUR PROBLEM'; which is a form of privilege in itself, when minorities and other marginalized group have dealt with MUCH WORSE.
As for your second point, I'm not sure I understand what you mean. Why would the mainsteam media be a better platform to use when discussing something seemingly related to sex and gender than a magazine published by and for a movement which is supposed to be fighting against injustices affecting both men and women?
Because suicide is not just affected by sex and gender and the things that affect them?
It's also related to the economy, to psychology and neuroscience, to other social issues.
This is part of the privilege; masculinity is considered to be 'the default template'.
Suicides that are more closely related to sex and gender issues often happened to...people who aren't men. Women, GLBTQ crowds; you get the drift. How many men died by suicide because of their masculinity in particular?
I'm not sure if you're being serious or not with your link to the article on derailment, but if you are then that's a good illustration of another problem with modern feminism (and the men's rights movement to boot): instead of accepting the fact that both sexes face some unique difficulties, they turn it into a contest of who is the most oppressed, as if it's an either-or scenario where you can only possibly try to help one sex. If you ever want to ruin a good day, try finding an article on gender equality and read the comments - it will destroy any faith you have left in humanity.
I agreed with your point; trying to make gender problems a Misery Olympics won't do any good.
And this is not an either-or scenario; we can focus on multiple topics at the same time and help everyone.
But at the same time, I hope you can see how derailing won't solve the particular issue? "Oh so hey what do you think about Bradley Manning's transgender?" "BUT WHAT ABOUT MALE DIVORCE THAT IS (more) IMPORTANT!!?!?!?!!?"
I realize I might come across as someone who is very resentful towards feminists in general, but that's not the case. I largely agree with most feminist writers I've come across, but I do find that it's very difficult to bring up what I would call "men's issues" without being labelled as someone trying to trivialize discrimination against women.
Regarding your second post on privilege, I understand what you mean now, and I sort of agree.
TPO, I think. Again, talking about men's issue in a non-specific feminist platforms is just as on-topic as me suddenly going in a tirade about how Johnny Depp always plays the same character and DEAR GOD TAKE A SHOWER here. (credit to @
Jack)
The thing about that and social activists crowd's impatience with derailing is that it is often used as a bad argument strategy.
I could use some privilege right now. Magical privilege powers... gooooo!
Man I wish that would work.
Oh god I wish it work that way.