It's hard to think about this to be honest. I think if we are just too different as romantic partners and have different desires then we just wouldn't continue as a couple. The problem occurs if i really love someone i will do everything to fit and be what they want, that's the biggest issue. It drains me over time and then the whole relationship goes to hell.
Is he terribly busy with a career or family issues or something?
I don't think it's rude to ask for a recap, I just wanted to cut through the pages of paragraphs speculating about specific incidents and get right to what's happened in brief.lol you are such a chancerAnd it worked!
Shy Guy, doesn't open up that quickly with his feelings. I'd say go out on a date, choose a location (together or ask if he knows a spot), ask how he sees you (both) during the date. Get a bit tipsy on the date to get it more flowing
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Shy Guy, doesn't open up that quickly with his feelings. I'd say go out on a date, choose a location (together or ask if he knows a spot), ask how he sees you (both) during the date. Get a bit tipsy to get it more flowing
You mean the anxious, avoidant and secure? I read about them .. I guess I'm leaning towards the anxious kind. I'm different with different people tho, depends on my partner. In all relationships that I had I felt different, they weren't even similar issues or breakup reasons. When I was around 15-20 I certanly was an anxious type. But I've learned a lot since then, and still learning.
That sounds weird. I personally feel like it's best to be friends first, get to know them etc. I've never had that kind of relationship (that would evolve from long term friendship) but seems incredible.
There's always something telling me ''what if it won't work out''. And I'm always thinking of 10 different outcomes of every decision I make. Yeah I like to have him in my deams.Something that tells you it might not fit, so you keep it safe in your dreams for now as long as it is possible to do so?
If you are close friends you could ask to get a coffee and tell him in general about this issue in your life, and seek his input as a friend for now. Maybe it is something you want to tackle in your personal life in 2020 so to say.
Not that I know of. And I doubt he's busy with it for years.
I was thinking if instead of telling him how I feel, I would ask him how he sees us or something in that context (preferably through text)Shy Guy, doesn't open up that quickly with his feelings. I'd say go out on a date, choose a location (together or ask if he knows a spot), ask how he sees you (both) during the date. Get a bit tipsy on the date to get it more flowing
Who would just disappear tho.. And he's not doing it intentionally.. I'm positive he's intoverted and feeler. About other stuff I'm not so sure.
You mean the anxious, avoidant and secure? I read about them .. I guess I'm leaning towards the anxious kind. I'm different with different people tho, depends on my partner. In all relationships that I had I felt different, they weren't even similar issues or breakup reasons. When I was around 15-20 I certanly was an anxious type. But I've learned a lot since then, and still learning.
But knowing about these dynamics can be helpful in terms of background.I was thinking if instead of telling him how I feel, I would ask him how he sees us or something in that context (preferably through text)
Yeah I agree. It's hard to just jump to romance after 4 year of knowing him. For a long time I saw him only as a friend and honestly it was bit scary when I noticed how I'm slowly falling for him.
If you start with flirting when you meet and he flirts back you're basically done, with friendship yeehh it's tricky.
You may not know of it. For instance if he's got complex mental health issues and is hiding it you might never know. Perhaps he has some personal issue that he's embarrassed about or needs to keep under wraps for some other reason.
Now that I think about it, he did briefly mention anxiety, I don't know in what context though, I know we were sitting somewhere and he was looking in his hands and then the word anxiety came out, I think it was about a thing that could give him/gave him anxiety.. I remember thinking that he doesn't seem like a person that would have anxiety at all. He's always happy, funny,.. So I just said to myself he doesn't have it and forgot about it because I know it's horrible and don't want him to ever feel it.
It may sound stupid but what's OP ?