Can't we label someone/thing/institution as evil and go as far as to make them our enemy, but not hate them or try to destroy them? Can we love our enemies?
I agree, letting evil infect our hearts turns us into what we hate. Nightmarish situation imo.
Actions are evil but not the person? I'm not sure I understand how an action can be evil. Lying isn't always evil and not all liars are evil, but some liars are evil. Stealing isn't always evil and not all thieves are evil, but some thieves are evil. Wouldn't it always be people that are evil and not the action itself? Sorry, I'm not sure what you mean.
“In actual life it requires the greatest art to be simple, and so acceptance of oneself is the essence of the moral problem and the acid test of one's whole outlook on life. That I feed the beggar, that I forgive an insult, that I love my enemy in the name of Christ - all these are undoubtedly great virtues. What I do unto the least of my brethren, that I do unto Christ. But what if I should discover that the least among them all, the poorest of all beggars, the most impudent of all offenders, yea the very fiend himself - that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of my own kindness, that I myself am the enemy who must be loved - what then? Then, as a rule, the whole truth of Christianity is reversed: there is no more talk of love and long-suffering; we say to the brother within us, ‘Raca,’ and condemn and rage against ourselves. We hide him from the world; we deny ever having met this least among the lowly in ourselves, and had it been God himself who drew near to us in this despicable form, we should have denied him a thousand times before a single cock had crowed.” - Carl Jung
To no one in particular:
If Christianity talks about standing in judgement before God... who are you to judge an individual's purity?
Point #3 again at no one in particular...
Judge not a man by his actions. Judge a man's actions instead. For a man is neither good or evil, right nor wrong; he is simply a man. Though a man may do a bad thing, he himself is not a bad man, but merely a man who has done a bad thing. Punish the man's physical being for his actions, but his soul and self may only stand in judgement of a metaphysical force that can truly see, and not the force of physical man. When we demonize a man, we leave ourselves open to be demonized.
In freeing the man's self, one may find some peace in the freedom of judgement in their own self.
NOTE: You can replace man with woman to mean the same thing. I only use the word man because it has fewer letters and faster to type.