I'm going to have to disagree with you on this one. I think INFJs are extremely expressive, but perhaps not blatantly so. INFJs tend to be really creative and because of this, expressive in the artistic sense. I think they can be very expressive about their opinions and their passions as well.-They are not particularly expressive; they're often kind of matter of fact when they don't know you well, yet quite warm and friendly nonetheless. It's a strange, contradictory vibe overall. I wish I could explain it better.
From this I kind see that you really are an INFJ after allI really think that, above all, the proof is in the pudding.
Whatever his/her inclinations, an INJ will exhibit clear INJ thought patterns. It is simply his/her essence, even if that person is going through some crazy phase where he/she is trying to be some completely different kind of person.
[MENTION=4717]subwayrider[/MENTION]
From this I kind see that you really are an INFJ after all
What's that supposed to mean?
At this point, I do not care either way. The label is used by far too many as a bolster for self-esteem. I guess it's to feel special and unique.
That said, -- and I've pondered extensively, and debated much with myself -- I do think it's a best fit. But I'm open to reproof because I'm more interested in accuracy than in feeling better about myself via aligning with some label.
I taken this post from "The experience of having a rare personality type". Few things that I see remain in my memory with such clarity, and you post reminds me about Arthur Schopenhauer writings.My whole life I knew I was different. I could think and feel and see things that I knew other people could only dream of. Whenever I would try to explain my divine insights, I would invariably be sneered at or mocked or shunned by my lesser peers. I learned that in this world chock-full of the simple-minded and the morally bankrupt, I am superior; therefore, I suffer.
There are other types similar to myself -- such as the other NFs and the NTs. But I soon learned that even they could not understand me -- INFJ alone is free from the restraints imposed by social groups, restraints the ENFs have to contend with their entire lives, and which unfortunately taint their perceptions, which might otherwise be very original, deep, and unique, like my own. Of all the types, INFPs are closest to understanding me -- but let's be real, they only wish they were me.
The NTs, especially the INTs, I have found to be very intelligent and all those nice things, but they have their own shackles, imperceptible to them, that tie down their imaginations with a terrible weight -- namely, logic and knowledge. If not for this colossal shortcoming, they might be as wise and supernatural and omniscient as I am. It's a terrible waste, if you ask me -- they can build their little robots and play with their little calculators and construct weapons of mass destruction the likes of which the world has never seen -- but they still can't plumb the depths of the mysteries of the universe like I can, because, you see, I am by my very nature above the trifles that are logic and scientific knowledge. What need does an INFJ like me have for such frivolous things? Why, none at all.
I could never explain this difference to myself, the difference between myself and other people -- I just knew it was there. Then one day I came across a beautiful and ingenious system that could finally explain to me what I am and why I am this way. This system corroborated all the hunches I'd had throughout my whole life -- that I am superior and the rarest type of all. This system is the peerless Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, and my type is INFJ, the rarest of all types.
Life is not easy for me, but this is a fact I have grown to accept after a lifetime of weary marching. I suspect I am the only true INFJ -- people on the internet claim to have gotten this result on their own tests, or through their own research, but I believe them to be wannabes keen on bolstering their self-esteem by associating with a rare and elusive personality type like my own. Will I ever meet another like myself? I cannot say. But I hope I do, because that way I will know I am not alone in this impossibly large universe, and to meet a mind on my own wavelength would perhaps allow me to, for once, connect with another human being.
But such an event would be miraculous, and I can only conclude that to harbor such a hope would be beyond sanguine. No, I am alone. I alone am unique. I alone am special. I am INFJ.
To me, this was always true : INFJ are not bounded or limited by anything: the whole existence is in their "hands". They can see everything, truly everything:The NTs, especially the INTs, I have found to be very intelligent and all those nice things, but they have their own shackles, imperceptible to them, that tie down their imaginations with a terrible weight -- namely, logic and knowledge. If not for this colossal shortcoming, they might be as wise and supernatural and omniscient as I am. It's a terrible waste, if you ask me -- they can build their little robots and play with their little calculators and construct weapons of mass destruction the likes of which the world has never seen -- but they still can't plumb the depths of the mysteries of the universe like I can, because, you see, I am by my very nature above the trifles that are logic and scientific knowledge. What need does an INFJ like me have for such frivolous things? Why, none at all.
So from this, I see that you are an INFJ really, and it's also something else.but they still can't plumb the depths of the mysteries of the universe like I can, because, you see, I am by my very nature above the trifles that are logic and scientific knowledge.
You see that? I mean you go right to the essence, and seeing the world in essence is pure INFJ mind pattern. It's not that is just a mind pattern, it's that only INFJs can truly see the essence, so obviously they thinking pattern starts from the essence of things.I really think that, above all, the proof is in the pudding.
Whatever his/her inclinations, an INJ will exhibit clear INJ thought patterns. It is simply his/her essence, even if that person is going through some crazy phase where he/she is trying to be some completely different kind of person.
[MENTION=1360]TheDaringHatTrick[/MENTION] Thanks, this describes me so well.. parts I have forgotten even. Thanks so much!
Why am I tagged here?
I think I'm getting more expressive as I get older, but I think that it actually is a pretty good description of how I have always been with people I don't know well, I have always been very reserved in that sort of situation, but with people I am comfortable with I am very expressive! I have only met other INFJs once (that I know for sure), and that was a group of us who gathered to meet other INFJs and I think overall that would describe that group well. The one thing I really noticed is that the ones who were relatively young were very idealistic and those of us who were older all seemed to be a little disillusioned, and that seemed to be across the board.
Yes, people who don't know me well get me as "quiet one, shy". People who know me...well, I came across as too much intense sometimes.