gloomy-optimist, You have impelled my first reply on this forum.
Outside, and even inside, conflict affects many different things. Our reactions to these instances often override our "comfort zone" type reactions. A specific reaction to a specific situation does not mean a person's personality has changed, while it can surely show a different side of us. Outside influences during youth can definitely influence our personalities, and can sometimes drive us deeper into places we feel more comfortable. Most of us see with two eyes; yet, we have a dominant eye.
An eye patch or occluder over our dominant eye makes us use the other eye, but does not change the fact which is our dominant. We are what we are and change we do, though most of us like the same fluffed out pillow every night if we can have it. Glad to see you are an optimist. Let us help with the gloom should you wish to.
If I may quote a friend...If you think I'm wrong, you may be right.
