What an interesting topic. I think death is harder on the living than it is on the person that passed away. I believe in an afterlife and that people will be held accountable for their wrongs, but after death it just seems like that person is on their own journey doing their own thing. it's the people left behind that suffer. that's how it seems to me.
I haven't thought about it really, I just kinda assumed I'd be old and frail, with a cane and talking all gently cuz my little bitty self just isnt that strong anymore. and then one day I'd exhale for the last time.
My assumption is that by that point the majority of my close friends and family will have passed already, and the people that would be left would be my children and their children. My assumption is that I will outlive my spouse, more out of peace for him, cuz i can handle it, where as i dont think he can. but not that much before me, again more for his sake, so he can live a long happy life.
By then I'd like to be one with God. I'd like to be able to understand His plan, and have accomplished my role in it. I'd like to be waiting to continue my journey in the hereafter.
I would like to be buried in a cemetery will lots of cherry blossom trees, that provide my gave with shade and flowers. Not that it would effect me. But I dunno, when i go to cemeteries where there are thriving plants the mix of life and death seems beautiful. In my religion our dead are buried wrapped in cloth and placed in a pine coffin that will biodegrade. From the earth I came and to the earth I will return.