[MENTION=3545]bickelz[/MENTION]
My apologies for asking you the name of the book. When I reread your intro I saw it there.
You said you think your professor means individualism is more about isolation. Is that right?
For example:
I'm feeling anxious because I may be losing my job soon due to closing the program. I'm not really aware of my anxiety as it rides just below the surface in my mind. I see a shoe sale in the local paper ads. I react to my anxiety and I go shopping. I oooh and ahhh at all of the new sparkly shoes. This is fun. This is exciting. This causes some dopamine to course through my mind because I'm
programmed or -
conditioned - or
encouraged by media ads - to think shopping is fun.
I could have instead allowed myself to be vulnerable and call my best girl friend and ask her to meet at her place and work with her horse, drink some coffee, etc., and talk.
What is the learning process that makes most choose to shop? What is that mechanism?
I believe the "learning process" of how to act in our society is geared to fulfill the one's in power AND feed the money machine.
I was talking with Blind Bandit the other night about how it used to be here in the US when multiple families lived within the same home with many rooms. Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Mom and Dad, and children all under the same roof. Then came WWII and the industrial age took a huge upswing in this country. All the manufacturing giants needed to keep making stuff to increase their profits didn't they? Greed...
So they started advertising the Nuclear Family concept. Each family unit, Mom Dad Jr and Sissy, was portrayed as living in their own home - driving to work in their brand new Chevrolet. So now - instead of one refrigerator, washer, dryer, stove in a household of multiple families - one needed at least 2. See what I'm talking about?
For every multi family home - being split up into single family homes - the potential for profits was staggering.
This is the beginning of the isolation - or individualistic movement. It all began with Capitalism and Greed.
I was pointing out to BB that in a multifamily home the potential for at least one of the parenting figures - be it Grandpa or Uncle - was better for the child in that they may have a better way of understanding each other. With regard to types - let's say you are an INFJ child and your Mom is an ESTJ and you cannot grasp each others point of view. If this child was born into a multifamily home, the odds are they might have other parenting figures who are NOT ESTJ's - and so on. Oh - sorry - I digress off topic.
Anyway. As Blind Bandit pointed out - it takes a Village to raise a child. I think it takes a Village for true happiness to naturally abound.
The idea of isolation or individualism was termed as Cocooning back in the '90's.
Cocooning is the name given to the trend that sees individuals socializing less and retreating into their home more. The term was coined in the 1990s by
Faith Popcorn, a trend forecaster and
marketing consultant. Popcorn identified cocooning as a
commercially significant trend that would lead to, among other things, stay-at-home electronic shopping.
As Muir said -
They know what they're doing. And as Norton pointed out - it's the sheeple who are being herded.
I still say - it's because we've been taught that happiness comes from without - instead of within - wherever that erroneous idea stems from.