This raises a problem though. If you can believe you are something you're not, then the subjective sense of identity isn't very reliable. It also suggests that there is a real, objective identity with which it can be compared. Also, the problem with how others perceive us is that they can also be wrong.
This is a more general problem with self-perception, i.e. that it is fallible. At the same time it would sound strange to say that identity itself is 'fallible'. It's more plausible that it should just be what it is (changing or not). I think this may be a good argument against the view that identity is purely based on perception.
A good argument indeed, and admittedly one which perplexed me when I was thinking of how to reply to this. But I'm not one to back down ;D
Yes, one's sense of their own identity is not reliable I would agree - it ties into my belief of how identity is partly 'fluid'. There will likely always be aspects of oneself that are ignored, misinterpreted or simply created for the comfort of the person. Self-awareness I believe plays a big part in not only how identity is formed, but how true such perception is. Of course there will always be those whom wrongly portray themselves, or declare themselves to be something which they are not; lauding themselves for being something which juxtaposes their actions.
I would say that there is indeed an aspect of a 'real, objective identity' even if it may be hard to realise. It is this identity which those closest to us, or whom spend a lot of time around our persons, can see to an extent. I am not saying that this perception-based view of identity encapsulates everything about a person - indeed, my focus on perception was just to give a more nuanced insight into my own view of this topic, aside from the usual 'genetics/experiences/value systems' etc. But there are parts of ourselves which are concrete, many of which can be recognised by others. To add a dash of MBTI to this (from my still-vague understanding), it is probably why Ni can be found to be quite 'invasive' as I recall reading on a thread some time ago.
Of course others can perceive us as wrong, but I did not mean adhering to others' perception as if it were Bible. However, it is also why I said that for myself at least, I only listen to what those close to me say, in order to get more reliable views that can be considered. Yes, they may be flawed, but that risk should not negate the validity of what they share. I have never had much issue with the perception of those closest to me, which is why I myself put such stock in it.
This was a really nice point though. When you say 'more plausible that it should just be what
it is'; what is
it? Their identity, yes, but how would one measure it?
One thing that I've always thought is,
Nobody ever really changes. They just embrace the parts of themselves that they rejected before. They become more of who they always were.
I think that in a sense this is true, but isn't the process of embracing/forgetting those parts also a kind of change? Not change in terms of addition or subtraction of facts but maybe in terms of recombinations.
I think Ren said it best for part of what my reply would have been
@slant
But also, what I was talking with PapillonT more or less adheres to this same line of thought: that once we find ourselves and recognise our capabilities - becoming comfortable with this view - it creates a 'foundation' of our identity which is rarely changed other than for
wisdom, academic understanding, emotional development and the like
- the more flexible aspects of our identity which are constantly influenced throughout our life. I don't agree so much that 'nobody ever really changes' - it is inevitable, and people are always undergoing change to an extent. Otherwise development would never occur.