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That she accepted your apology surprised me.
Would you accept the apology or hold on to the anger?
That she accepted your apology surprised me.
I have a friendship with an INFJ male long distance and we both quickly dove into sharing a lot of information with one another and it turned into both of us being quite smitten with one another. Almost like the perfect friendship. I can definitely understand how INFJs would have an explosive connection and emotional attachment to one another. I do agree with what an earlier poster said, in that I have a harder time reading this person. They are so much like me that maybe instead of processing their patterns, I'm heightened to my own because it's a brand new and surreal encounter.
Has anyone connected or started anything platonic or romantic with another forum user here? How has that been?
Sorry, I am a bit cynical these days. Haha.
I have a friendship with an INFJ male long distance and we both quickly dove into sharing a lot of information with one another and it turned into both of us being quite smitten with one another. Almost like the perfect friendship. I can definitely understand how INFJs would have an explosive connection and emotional attachment to one another. I do agree with what an earlier poster said, in that I have a harder time reading this person. They are so much like me that maybe instead of processing their patterns, I'm heightened to my own because it's a brand new and surreal encounter.
Has anyone connected or started anything platonic or romantic with another forum user here? How has that been?
@FreeSp1r1t do you think an INFJ with INFJ relationship is a bit narcissistic? Just curious about your reasoning, I don't see how it can be the same as fuc**ng yourself, just because there might be an easier connection in some ways. (possibly not in others though).
@FreeSp1r1t do you think an INFJ with INFJ relationship is a bit narcissistic? Just curious about your reasoning, I don't see how it can be the same as fuc**ng yourself, just because there might be an easier connection in some ways. (possibly not in others though).
Just saying that if you are an INFJ and you come home and are getting INFJ (at the end of the day) then you will be getting a extra helping of yourself (systemically, not personally).
Would it be narcissistic for two wolves to bond as well?
IDK Dang, do you have any experience in that area? Maybe provide some insight? You have Jacque Cousteaus number?
Wolves aren't marine life.
A match made in heaven, if they were at the same level of evolution of self & maturity. Otherwise, I'd see a lot of pissy matches of hot &cold and no real progress, with a silent ending of broken hearts. :|
II believe there is a injury from childhood in most INFJs. It generally comes from parents that make them feel like their feelings don't matter. It's not always intentional as parents have their own issues and traumas from childhood and most do the best they can (there are exceptions). With that said, two similar injuries can be hard to work through in a relationship.
Socionics defines INFJ - INFJ relationships as "Identical.":
- "These are relations of complete understanding between partners but with an inability to help each other. Identical partners see the world with identical eyes, identically work out received information, come to identical conclusions and have identical problems."
- "Interaction with an Identical partner may quickly become boring."
- "If the two are introverts, one often subconsciously attempts to take care of the extroverted side"
- Good for self development - similar to watching a video of ones self.
Bottom line, it's hard to grow as a person when you're in an identical relationship.
Here's a link if you want to read the entire description on identical relations:
http://www.socionics.com/rel/idn.htm
Personally, I believe the depth of two INFJs could be highly insightful but also overwhelming and depressing. As a friend it would be great to get together occasionally so they could help each other recognize their feelings; however, as a partner I think it would stagnate and lack good challenge or growth.
Of course, I'm with an ESTJ, which is considered my dual (searched for one specifically when dating), and is identified as the most optimal. All of our external functions line up with corresponding internal functions of the other partner. Growth is optimal and we both get what we need. Yes their are still argument; there is a trade off for getting to experience all of that sensory stuff (lower intuition). SO, if I want to be understood at a deep level I can go to INFJs.com.
I believe there is a injury from childhood in most INFJs. It generally comes from parents that make them feel like their feelings don't matter. It's not always intentional as parents have their own issues and traumas from childhood and most do the best they can (there are exceptions). With that said, two similar injuries can be hard to work through in a relationship.
Socionics defines INFJ - INFJ relationships as "Identical.":
- "These are relations of complete understanding between partners but with an inability to help each other. Identical partners see the world with identical eyes, identically work out received information, come to identical conclusions and have identical problems."
- "Interaction with an Identical partner may quickly become boring."
- "If the two are introverts, one often subconsciously attempts to take care of the extroverted side"
- Good for self development - similar to watching a video of ones self.
Bottom line, it's hard to grow as a person when you're in an identical relationship.
Here's a link if you want to read the entire description on identical relations:
http://www.socionics.com/rel/idn.htm
Personally, I believe the depth of two INFJs could be highly insightful but also overwhelming and depressing. As a friend it would be great to get together occasionally so they could help each other recognize their feelings; however, as a partner I think it would stagnate and lack good challenge or growth.
Of course, I'm with an ESTJ, which is considered my dual (searched for one specifically when dating), and is identified as the most optimal. All of our external functions line up with corresponding internal functions of the other partner. Growth is optimal and we both get what we need. Yes their are still argument; there is a trade off for getting to experience all of that sensory stuff (lower intuition). SO, if I want to be understood at a deep level I can go to INFJs.com.
@infjguy This is a problem I have noticed with INFJ guys. If they are immature, they can be incredibly hurtful. I know that I would not want to deal with this kind of thing in a relationship. I am surprised that you were able to apologize to her, especially on text. Maybe she was actually INFP?
I dated very briefly an INFJ woman. Problem was that I wasn't attracted to her enough Shallow I know but it's true. It was kinda awkward when we were together in person but over text it was like...wonderful. We'd write long texts and it would go on for hours. Some times it got pretty emotional actually because there was this intense harmony and understanding and we'd just dive deep into personal topics which was just beautiful. In person it felt awkward though. Like we both knew we had a lot going on inside. Had I been more attracted to her I think I'd have been able to push past awkwardness. Maybe I was awkward because I wanted to like her more than I did...but didn't. Hmm anyway I kinda ghosted on her and felt terrible about it. I really wanted her as a friend but didn't know how to say that. Stupid.