when an INFJ acts somehow or thinks somehow from an early age, and other kids start asking him "why do you do this? Oh, you are so this and that" he begin to feel really different and abnormal, and he starts to feed a FEAR, a huge one > this fear is called "sensitivity" in INFJ language;
So you've got a lot of INFJs who are full of fear, fear of themselves, fear of exposing to people, and they called it "sensitivity" because few of them have the courage to recognize this fear.
Is this really what is meant by sensitive?
I relate to the being different thing but not to the rest.
Here are some other common definitions.
sensitive @ Webster
1sen·si·tive adjective \ˈsen(t)-sə-tiv, ˈsen(t)s-təv\
: easily upset by the things that people think or say about you
I think this one (above) is the common usage. This one
does not describe me. If this is a requirement for Club NF, I might should go back to NTland.
: likely to cause people to become upset
This happens more often than I intend, particularly when it comes to being around people who meet the prior definition, but...
: aware of and understanding the feelings of other people
I generally do meet this definition.
I do care about and pay attention to the way other people feel.
Full Definition of SENSITIVE
1
: sensory 2
2
a : receptive to sense impressions
b : capable of being stimulated or excited by external agents (as light, gravity, or contact) <sensitive cells>
The above are likely not more true for me than is typical.
3
: highly responsive or susceptible: as
a (1) : easily hurt or damaged; especially : easily hurt emotionally (2) : delicately aware of the attitudes and feelings of others
This seems to combine the prior definitions and I think this is what introduces the confusion. Half applies to me more than the other. I am quite aware of the attitudes and feelings of others but am not particularly easily hurt or damaged by them emotionally.
The things that do get to me emotionally? Rejection, abandonment, being excluded or left out of a group. I am sensitive about these things.
If you don't like music I listen to, tv and movies I watch, food I eat, clothes I wear, car I drive, views I hold, opinions I form, company I keep, my hairstyle, my hobbies and interests, what I think about, how I think, or what I think, zero fucks are given. I am quite interested in the tastes, thoughts, and motives of other people but have absolutely no need for their approval or conformity.
When someone else makes the above important enough to divide us, attempt to create drama, or put excess effort into constantly informing me of what they don't like, I may become irritated but I will mostly be disappointed. When someone exclaims, "I don't like ____ !" I may commonly respond, "Congrats!" or "Hang on, let me get you a medal." Really, if disliking stuff is one's biggest accomplishment, one might refrain from boasting to highlight the fact. The difference of opinion will not hurt me.
I do care about whether someone thinks I'm attractive, easy to talk to, or fun to be around, but only so much as it is productive. I'm far more concerned about whether someone I'm dating is into me than whether everyone is. In fact, too much attraction can be a detriment to platonic bonding anyway. So, as long as I'm neutral or better such that people can stand to look at me and I can make my presence felt in other ways, that's probably good enough.
b : excessively or abnormally susceptible : hypersensitive <sensitive to egg protein>
I have sensitive eyes and sensitive skin. I'm pale and fair. I burn easily. My skin damages easily. Too much sun makes me cranky. Too much light gives me a headache.
c : readily fluctuating in price or demand <sensitive commodities>
This one is debatable.
d : capable of indicating minute differences : delicate <sensitive scales>
I have sensitive touch. ...
I have sensitive taste buds. I can usually pick out ingredients and discern differences between foods other people can't. I may be a
supertaster. This may be in compensation for having no sense of smell whatsoever.
e : readily affected or changed by various agents (as light or mechanical shock) <a photographic emulsion sensitive to red light>
f : highly radiosensitive
4
a : concerned with highly classified government information or involving discretionary authority over important policy matters <sensitive documents>
b : calling for tact, care, or caution in treatment : touchy <a sensitive issue like race relations>
5
: having or showing concern for a specified matter —usually used in combination <a price-sensitive customer> <environmentally sensitive policies>
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