Pristinegirl
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Oh you are very right darkstar, MANY people have told me so. Hence, I don't wanna hurt his feelings and I cant help but feel guilty.
That must have been awful, Indigo! I'm glad your other experiences were positive.
Was the counselor not bound by confidentiality terms?
... can I PLEASE whack him in the head with a baseball bat? That is the kind of thing that will make me talk back to someone and or leave.
i've been in therapy for years with only one bad experience. i have fairly weak boundaries; they've become stronger over the years--having kids helped--but at the time i saw this one guy, i was pretty vulnerable, in a bad marriage, in law school, raising two toddlers, etc. and this guy's boundaries were as weak or weaker than mine. i ended up knowing far too much about his personal life and he lost all objectivity (e.g., like never, in six years, noticing that i was classically, severely bipolar, type 1).
i now see a psychiatrist who's very empathetic but keeps her boundaries and i see her only for meds management. i see a psychologist i thought was cold at first but it's really a matter of boundaries and the type of therapy we do. talk therapy isn't terribly helpful to me but cognitive behavioral therapy is, so we don't delve much into childhood stuff but deal mainly with how to cope with the mood swings in my daily life. it's probably been my most positive experience to date.
Please do so!!! He was really evil, and the worst part is that he was going to call me and schedule an appointment. However 2 weeks have passed and no call. So today I decided to pluck of the courage and call. Guess what what his excuse was for not calling? That I havent answered when he has called :S
He was really trying to blame everything but himself.
Anyway, I have an appointment tomorrow at 3pm :/ Do you think I should request a new counsellor? and if so how can I do it without being 'mean' and feel guilty (for hurting his feelings), afterwards.
loves infjs<3
Survival of the fittest! If he's not doing anything for ya, then theres no reason to keep on. It seems clear that (a) he really doesnt like his job enough to try, or (b) his and your communication/thinking style is far different and you are not getting through to each other.If in your shoes, I would have invarabily said something in session if he did something like that to me. Nevertheless, if there is like a "head" counsler or something, talk to them. You should let him know how you feel though if he starts to demean you again though.
Good to hear that it works out for you. The mood swings must be hard to control. Furthermore doesnt the pathology of bipolar disorder physiological firstly? and if so, does that mean that one cannot recover from it?
Wish you the best =)
You are mistaken haha because that is my problem here. I'm hyper emotional. I have my emotions along with taking on his emotions (worrying hurting him) and everybody else for that matter. So I'd say I am rather emotional, Yes.You're an ENFP, get emotional!
I thought one of the attributes of infj was "Counselor"??
Maybe your counselors need counseling, if you can help them without their knowing what you are trying to do, of course. An infj forum may be some of the best counseling out there. Who knows? Just a seed for thought...
It seems like we all help each other a great deal here with our life problems and what not. We may be the "counslers", but not all of us are (or at least not by choice). For me, my friends say I have a "tell me your problems sign" floating above my head, and people will come to me for advice and questions. However, this insight leads to problems with overthinking and overanalysing, and leads us to needing counsoling as well.
Well, I don't know about that. I understand what youre saying, but all this burden that I feel after listening to problems of my friends usually serves as an inspiration. Even when it does not, I rarelly seek councel from others. Maybe thats just me though.
Oh trust me, I really really resist seeking counsilng. I will seek it out when I truly need it, but there is alot of resistance.
Hmmm. Youre probably right. Its not like we dont need it. Its that we resist doing it. Is it because of our ego? Or because we dont want to trouble others? Or is it because we consider our problems insignifficant compared to the problems of those surrounding us? I'm not quite sure. I guess the most probable answer would be the first one.
For me it is largely ego, which i hate acknolaging, but it is largely true. For a good portion of my life (most of highschool), I was under the delusion that I could solve any problem I had, and rationalize any "wrong" emotion away. It wasn't until last year at sometime that I realised I was progressing to a shadow state. The one thing that started it, was my ego. I felt like I was being weak by not being able to solve my internal problems and maiuplate my reality as much as I could. And I was pretty sucessful at it for a long time. I was just lucky with it.
Now when I look at it, it is still ego mostly. I don't like to sound weak to others. I have gotten much better with it though over the past year or so. I also realised part of it is I do not want to trouble others with what I usually think are stupid problems. Yet I somehow convince myself that they are well founded.
Have you ever cried in front of a friend because of a serious problem you had?
Never, only my mom.
I see.
I once cried in front of a friend. It felt nice. Nice but awkward. As if I wasnt myself.
Sorry if I was a bit direct. And thank you for your honesty.