la boheme
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- MBTI
- INTP
Hello INFJs! I want to ask you about something I've noticed in Ni-doms including INFJs. It is that in impersonal discussions and debates, these types will often bring up what they imagine are my supposed hidden intentions and use that against me. Such a tactic is known as an ad hominem argument in rhetoric, meaning "arguing to the man" rather than to his ideas. It is considered a logical fallacy and highly inappropriate in debates, especially formal ones.
My question is do you ever do this yourself? And what prompts you to do it? Why do you think it is relevant in an impersonal discussion to bring up "hidden agendas" that cannot usually be proven? How do you justify doing this? How do you support your suspicions?
And in personal discussions I assume you do this. I would be annoyed to have my supposed motivations thrown in my face, especially when I think they are wrong or irrelevant. How do you go about broaching such touchy subjects w/o derailing the discussion and upsetting your partner?
thanks
My question is do you ever do this yourself? And what prompts you to do it? Why do you think it is relevant in an impersonal discussion to bring up "hidden agendas" that cannot usually be proven? How do you justify doing this? How do you support your suspicions?
And in personal discussions I assume you do this. I would be annoyed to have my supposed motivations thrown in my face, especially when I think they are wrong or irrelevant. How do you go about broaching such touchy subjects w/o derailing the discussion and upsetting your partner?
thanks