Freaky Chameleon
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OK here we go. I’ve been trying to figure out myself for a very long time. MBTI helped a lot. Everything I could find written about how INTJs think, behave and view the world matched up well except for one area. In relationships, the written descriptions were off. Way off. The descriptions were of someone I didn’t recognize. The more detailed the description the more wrong it seemed. Then I found this You Tube video. It describes me perfectly.
I was laughing so hard watching this video. I had to watch it several times. For me the funniest things said were:
“We are just so in sink that we feel like doing the same things like at the same time. We wake up at the same time. We both are craving the same food at the same time. We both feel like watching the same show at the same time. We both feel like canceling and staying in at the same time. We both feel like going out at the same time.” -- For me this Vulcan mind-meld thing freaked out an old girl friend and me too. LMAO! I mean what the hell is that! Hahaha.
And this one had me laughing for literally 10 minutes:
“My girl friend said she was like if I didn’t have tasks. I would be fu****g all the time I would just be in a love bubble and that was it. And like she’s like: I HATE TASKS. And she was like: I HATE HOW TASK INTERUPT MY LOVE BUBBLE.” -- OMG that is so funny!
So my questions for everyone here are:
1) To INFJs, does all this ring true for your type?
2) To INTJs, is all this way off base for your type?
3) Has anyone read or heard of such a thing as an INTJ having an INFJ alter ego?
4) What do you think I should identify as? Just INTJ or INFJ doesn’t work. INxJ doesn’t seem right to me either because I know when I’m use T and F. It’s not random.
All this has caused a lot of internal conflict with me over my life. The INFJ (all I want in life is to live in a Love Bubble) conflicts with the INTJ (I must change the world through logic and to hell with everything else). Often times I really do feel like Mr. Spock from Star Trek. Outwardly logical but emotional and vulnerable on the inside. What I've found is that if you have one then the other suffers. I've never been able to balance these two extremes. And being an INTJ engineer, you know which one suffered. But I'm not an engineer any more. So at age 56, I'm starting a whole new life to fulfill my INFJ half.
And I will need your help to do it including even some help with dating site profiles and answering questions like: Why do women “slam the door” when I tell them I’ve never been married and don’t have any kids. Kids I can understand if they have small children but when did having a divorce become a necessary thing? SLAM! LMAO. They are making all kinds of assumptions that are incorrect. What response do I write back to prevent the door slam before they have even met me?
I’m going to be an open book to you guys here on this forum through my journey. That’s the only way I feel that I can really improve myself. There is a reason for how everything has turned out to this point. And now that I know and better understand my INFJ half, I think it was all psychological in order to work out the conflict. I’m really beginning to believe that INTJs should never be wired this way.
So please ask any questions you like. But I will have to put some of them off for additional threads. Way too much information and millions of questions. But I promise to keep track of all your unanswered questions to respond in future. I know this is going to be a big project but hay this is what retired INTJ project engineers do for fun.
You can get background information about me by going to my profile information or the introductions forum.
I was laughing so hard watching this video. I had to watch it several times. For me the funniest things said were:
“We are just so in sink that we feel like doing the same things like at the same time. We wake up at the same time. We both are craving the same food at the same time. We both feel like watching the same show at the same time. We both feel like canceling and staying in at the same time. We both feel like going out at the same time.” -- For me this Vulcan mind-meld thing freaked out an old girl friend and me too. LMAO! I mean what the hell is that! Hahaha.
And this one had me laughing for literally 10 minutes:
“My girl friend said she was like if I didn’t have tasks. I would be fu****g all the time I would just be in a love bubble and that was it. And like she’s like: I HATE TASKS. And she was like: I HATE HOW TASK INTERUPT MY LOVE BUBBLE.” -- OMG that is so funny!
So my questions for everyone here are:
1) To INFJs, does all this ring true for your type?
2) To INTJs, is all this way off base for your type?
3) Has anyone read or heard of such a thing as an INTJ having an INFJ alter ego?
4) What do you think I should identify as? Just INTJ or INFJ doesn’t work. INxJ doesn’t seem right to me either because I know when I’m use T and F. It’s not random.
All this has caused a lot of internal conflict with me over my life. The INFJ (all I want in life is to live in a Love Bubble) conflicts with the INTJ (I must change the world through logic and to hell with everything else). Often times I really do feel like Mr. Spock from Star Trek. Outwardly logical but emotional and vulnerable on the inside. What I've found is that if you have one then the other suffers. I've never been able to balance these two extremes. And being an INTJ engineer, you know which one suffered. But I'm not an engineer any more. So at age 56, I'm starting a whole new life to fulfill my INFJ half.
And I will need your help to do it including even some help with dating site profiles and answering questions like: Why do women “slam the door” when I tell them I’ve never been married and don’t have any kids. Kids I can understand if they have small children but when did having a divorce become a necessary thing? SLAM! LMAO. They are making all kinds of assumptions that are incorrect. What response do I write back to prevent the door slam before they have even met me?
I’m going to be an open book to you guys here on this forum through my journey. That’s the only way I feel that I can really improve myself. There is a reason for how everything has turned out to this point. And now that I know and better understand my INFJ half, I think it was all psychological in order to work out the conflict. I’m really beginning to believe that INTJs should never be wired this way.
So please ask any questions you like. But I will have to put some of them off for additional threads. Way too much information and millions of questions. But I promise to keep track of all your unanswered questions to respond in future. I know this is going to be a big project but hay this is what retired INTJ project engineers do for fun.
You can get background information about me by going to my profile information or the introductions forum.