detectivepope
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Irrational longing and care, but to not have it makes life futile and devoid of joy.
I simplified it to those two lines because it was the simplest form in which I could express my idea, whilst not omitting any of the points that were central to it. This also allowed me to develop on the idea and distinguish more precisely between Love and what I labeled Evil, but what can be understood as "not love".
Agapooka
I will post my theory. I apologise in advance for the fact that I express it almost mathematically...
First and foremost, I contrast Love with Evil. Both of these are forces:
Love is a connective (creates connection) and constructive force.
Evil is a separative (creates separation) and destructive force.
Unlike, the yin-yang, there is no equilibrium between Love (good) and Evil - they are completely incompatible. Each, however, *is* a dualistic force. Both Love and Evil have an active force and a passive force. Both of Love and Evil have a force that is oriented towards the Self (inward) and a force that is oriented away from the Self (outward).
To summarise in two lines:
Notice how the only difference is a polarity reversal.
- Love has an active outward force (giving) and a passive inward force (receiving).
- Evil has a passive outward force (guilt-giving) and an active inward force (taking).
* Giving is an active outward force, because the flow of energy is extended away from Self and because this movement is initiated by Self.
* Receiving is a passive inward force, because the flow of energy is extended towards Self and because this movement is not initiated by Self.
* Guilt-giving is a passive outward force, because the flow of energy is extended away from Self and because this movement is not initiated by Self.
* Taking is an active inward force, because the flow of energy is extended towards Self and because this movement is initiated by Self.
What are the implications of this?
What is the difference between receiving and taking? My question concerning "give and take" was a trick question, because taking is incompatible with Love. The ability to give, however, relies on the ability to receive.
I wanted to create a contrast between giving and a passive equivalent of an outward force, but I failed to find a word in our language for such a concept. "Giving" out of guilt is, however, an example of giving passively. It is done because the motivation to do so comes from the outside. It is motivated and therefore initiated by the outside world. Being the victim of a taker falls into this category, because we are thereby robbed of energy (a broad word), and the taker has initiated this movement of energy towards him/herself. I call the passive equivalent of giving "guilt-giving", but it is in no way limited to situations when guilt is the motivational or initiating force. Note that an expectation constitutes an outside motivational force. Expecting something of someone is a form of taking.
The assumptions and effects of each dichotomy (Love and Evil, respectively) are notable.
Love assumes infinite energy and because it is giving AND receiving perpetually, the energy is always in motion and distributed perfectly; it is continuous. This continuity creates connections. Also, because the initiating force of giving is Self (giving is active), it is not based on commitments, promises and expectations. Love is beautiful because it exists in the present and it is perpetuated by itself. It cannot be coerced into existence. It is therefore inherently spontaneous and in the present. Note the difference between the statements:
"I take care of you because it is something that I desire to do for you." (present tense + spontaneity)
"I take care of you because I agreed to do so in the past." (past tense + agreement/expectation)
Evil, for lack of a better word, assumes finite energy. One takes because one believes they will either run out or that they can control a limited resource. An infinite resource cannot be controlled. As such, attempts are made to trap the energy and prevent it from motion. The energy becomes stagnant. It only enters motion when another can persuade or force it towards themselves, so that they can hoard it. This discontinuity creates separation. Whereas Love distributes energy through continuity and connectivity, Evil must do so through dependence and bondage. It fears spontaneity and seeks to control energy flow through coercion and contract.
Agapooka
i think it's difficult for anyone to define the "Feeling" of love for anyone else. We experience love on a personal and individual level. For some it's light and quiet, and for others, it's an explosive landmine. Each experiences it however it makes them feel.
I'm sorry if it came across like that, that wasn't my intention. Of course I don't know exactly who feels what. But I do maintain that I've felt quite a few of the different "types". And many of them can be labelled love in my head, but very few are actually good for me or the other. And in my mind love if it rips apart and consumes, isn't love as it should be.
But love which consumes isn't not necessarily bad. It can be fun.
@Altruistic Muse - sorry about the way I stated my point. . I agree with you that sometimes, we think we feel love but it's really infatuation or something else which doesn't really last. But love which consumes isn't not necessarily bad. It can be fun.
Driving off the side of a mountain, past the guard rail, free falling to the earth kind of fun. Give me the plain, boring, steadfast kind. My sanity can't withstand the first.
I think love is a cosmic force/principle that permeates everything everywhere on some level. Sounds simple, but (I think) it is the polar opposite of this. One can live in harmony with it, in dis-haromony with it, or in rejection of it in varying ways. Yes, there are a range of human expressions, but it is also much, much more than that. My 2 cents....
I meant the polar opposite of simple, or simply expressed...so complex, varied and nuanced in it's reality that it is beyond full knowing. Sorta what one might expect from a cosmic principle.I'm a bit confused.
. . . the expression is just a manifestation of it, but it isn't Love, in and of itself.
Agapooka
I would agree.I have also expressed that Love goes far beyond any expression thereof. In fact, I stated that the expression is just a manifestation of it, but it isn't Love, in and of itself.
This might be expressed of the "two ways" or "two path" concepts that are written about in many cultures. One way leads to life and good, one way leads to destruction. While meant to promote a right approach to life, I think there is more to this...it actually speaks to some deeper fundamental alignment, one that is seen in the entire cosmos in a far more complex form. Humanly speaking, we can align with love and/or we can live in illusion/disharmony (or a combination of the two). We can also intentionally reject the idea altogether, but I feel this, too is generally still a more complex illusion.What is the distinction between living in disharmony with Love and rejecting it?
I meant the polar opposite of simple, or simply expressed...so complex, varied and nuanced in it's reality that it is beyond full knowing. Sorta what one might expect from a cosmic principle.
Yes, I was asking about rejection as opposed to simple disharmony. I understand the distinction between harmony and disharmony, though.This might be expressed of the "two ways" or "two path" concepts that are written about in many cultures. One way leads to life and good, one way leads to destruction. While meant to promote a right approach to life, I think there is more to this...it actually speaks to some deeper fundamental alignment, one that is seen in the entire cosmos in a far more complex form. Humanly speaking, we can align with love and/or we can live in illusion/disharmony (or a combination of the two). We can also intentionally reject the idea altogether, but I feel this, too is generally still a more complex illusion.