- MBTI
- INTJ
I'll be what I am.
100I like you. You are naive.
I hope you never change. Such a hope is a curse.
I didn't want to bother, but okaay.
I think:
*Love is rooted in selflessness.
*Feelings aren't constant. Love can be.
*You can love someone without liking them or like someone without loving them. It is easier to love someone you like, but love is selfless and so does not have to be dependent on how you feel towards someone else.
* The feelings with love aren't a choice, but loving actions are a choice.
*Love is more than just sweet words and feelings. Selfless actions embody love.
*Love lasts as long as selfless behaviors do. Love is a choice that continues (on your end) as long as you let it. Whether it be for a friend or a lover, love creates demands beyond just words and feelings; it demands action.
*Love doesn't mean being perfect, selfless, or 100% happy all the time: that's just an ideal.
*There are different kinds of love (storge, philia, agape, eros, etc).
*An ideally loving and lasting relationship requires mutual selflessness and commitment.
*Lust is dependent on feelings (of attraction/desire), not love.
QftLust vs. Love: What's the diff? When did lust turn into love? How was it different? What it easy to figure out?
SIGNS OF LUST
SIGNS OF LOVE
- You're totally focused on a person's looks and body.
- You're interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.
- You'd rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
- You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning.
- You are lovers, but not friends.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blo...01108/lust-vs-love-do-you-know-the-difference
- You want to spend quality time together other than sex.
- You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
- You want to honestly listen to each other's feelings, make each other happy.
- He or she motivates you to be a better person.
- You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.
Qft.Love is sustainable and grows over time.
Interesting thing about choice and feelings...the more love is chosen, the more it is felt. Great post!The feelings with love aren't a choice, but loving actions are a choice
Human beings are animals, albiet more capable animals. Lust is as much a driver for humans as it is for a dog.I have to say @Pin I respectfully disagree. I think education and empathy are the true drivers of civilization. Even animals are capable of lust. If we only had that we'd still be in the caves you mention.
Shhhh.....Human beings are animals, albiet more capable animals. Lust is as much a driver for humans as it is for a dog.
Our education and empathy would get us nowhere without lust (the drive that compels all animals to reproduce).
It's true. Versailles wasn't built out of empathy. It was built because King Louie wanted to consolidate power, which also happens to be the "ultimate aphrodisiac."Shhhh.....
Human beings are animals, albiet more capable animals. Lust is as much a driver for humans as it is for a dog.
Our education and empathy would get us nowhere without lust (the drive that compels all animals to reproduce).
Lust is the drive that compels reproduction, not the desire for reproduction.Lust is not only a description for a desire for reproduction, which I regard as being completely normal. I think that we have a natural drive for procreation.
I think we'll have to agree to differ.
Lust is the drive that compels reproduction, not the desire for reproduction.
I will change your mind on this.Pin I know you're an entj so I'm not trying to "change your mind". Reproduction occurs often in nature, without any need for sex or lust. As in deed life itself seemingly began on earth.
Words carry different meanings to different people. Lust assuredly exists, we all have it to a degree. How we decide to deal with it is up to each of us. I think it carries many negative associations.
I will change your mind on this.
You're correct that we define lust differently.
Lust as I define it, "The drive that compels reproduction," extends to all organisms; even microorganisms, which encompasses both sexual and asexual reproduction.
How do you define lust?
Ok, I see the issue. My definition is closer to the first, while yours is closer to the second.I think of "lust" as a word that conveys a strong desire for something, and that quite often contains a dark undertone.
If I told you I "loved your (adult) daughter" I'd see that as being different to saying I "had a lot of lust" for her. I don't really see plants etc as capable of such thoughts, but they still reproduce.
No two dictionaries say the same thing, and the meaning of words can change across cultures and time. Here though is a dictionary description I often associate with it.
http://www.dictionary.com/browse/lust
- intense sexual desire or appetite.
- uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.
Hmm. I disagree. The feelings associated with love may be biological, but love is more than a feeling.
I still need to think of other people more
Yes I've thought of that before
Maybe one day I'll figure out
You don't find peace
Until you love somebody else
Note to self
-Ben Rector