soulseeker
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I have often found churches to contain some of the meanest and most hypocritical people that I have meet on this planet. Hence why I don't attend church anymore.
However, don't mind them. If the preist wants to be a jackass, let him be. If the people want to follow him, then let them.
They are only making themselves look stupid in front of god.
You and your father are not the ones at fault.
The priest owes you, your father and god an apology for his ignorance, if he does not give you one then I suggest you find a different church.
Question, has anything like this happened before in the church you attend?
well... I don't really know if something like that happened before
I avoid staying in front or joining activities where people would notice me
so.. I always stay at the back, where people don't see me
Once you let something like that bother you to a certain degree, you give your power away to the people who hurt you. Remember to be a survivor, not a victim.
thank you
Sometimes the people in charge of the institution set the tone. If it wasn't just a one time occurrence, then maybe you can find another Catholic church that better represents your values.
maybe it's just me. thanks
I'm sorry
My other suggestion to you Soulseeker would be to pray for the priest and those that laughed at you and your father, that they will learn from their mistake.
Forgive them even if they don't apologise to you and move on.
I feel bad forgiving people if I don't know if they meant it... what if they didn't mean it... and if I forgive them.. it's like.. I'm feeling superior.. I feel like who am I to forgive someone like a priest?? I wouldn't be able to take it if someone like a priest would apologize to me... I would feel really bad.. so maybe it's just me again but i'm still hurt
i'm sorry that happened to you, it must have felt awful. but if it makes you feel any better, he probably didn't intend to disrespect you or your father, i'm guessing he meant it as an (inappropriate) joke. forgiveness is what christianity is all about, right? so forgive him. even preists have their occasionally offensive moments.
I don't even know if he meant it as a joke or not .... and I feel bad to even think about it .. I feel bad to even think he did it purposely so maybe I'm taking it as something like nothing happened
Going to church does not make somebody a good person. Living righteously does. The two are not perfectly correlated. Mean people may go to church to elevate their social status, or to save themselves from a fiery hell of an afterlife. The kindest person may be non-religious. Can't give people too much credit, no matter who they are. Gotta judge with your own eyes.
Pay no attention to PastaKing. Seriously, just ignore that message. It's not even worth discussing.
thank you