The thing is, healthy relationships are partnerships based on consent, shared values, and so on.
You’re free to create any kind of relationship you want. Finding that suitable partner isn’t easy for anyone, so that takes some work, no doubt.
If you want a relationship based on exclusive fidelity and monogamy, that’s okay. Many people want that, but those relationships don’t generate the clicks that moral outrage and manufactured despair do.
That’s the amazing thing about finding a suitable partner—together, you decide what the rules and boundaries are, and then you live by them. The both of you decide together, and you leave whatever craziness (as you define that) behind.
Yep, the way things used to work went away, and people, without rules, went batshit crazy, as people tend to do.
You control one thing—yourself—so don’t worry about those things you can’t control. That includes uncountable people who would not be right for you. You only need to find that one person who is crazy in a way that works with your flavor of crazy.
If that’s the traditional Western nuclear family, go for it. You know what’s right for you, and don’t let anyone tell you differently.
Cheers,
Ian