Puzzlenuzzle
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Don't hate me lol. I could be very wrong - heck, I don't even know you and I'm going off by what you've told us and I respect you for being honest about it. So, don't take my little dissection as something ill natured...but this is what I gather from this.. and, it might not be what you want to hear
You really need to make peace with yourself. You didn't lose anything, you did the best you could do and honestly, she broke up with you and then went straight to another guy - I mean, if you would get back together. Could you just be all cool about that?
Don't worry - you'll be fine Just let her go, learn from the experience and focus on what makes you happy.
Hi everyone,
she fell in love with me with almost no effort on my part. I think my charisma did all the work to be honest
This makes me feel like you saw it as some kind of a game. I don't know though and I'm having a hard time pin pointing it to what it is exactly. Whatever, maybe I'm overthinking it.Our relationship was filled with fun, activities, outings, travelling, always treated her like a queen.. however i've had my good loads of immaturity like.. losing a game.. i wouldn't take it well.
Fights and arguments can naturally be part of any relationships because well, you are two different people. It just matters how you handle them.Romance was obviously not my strong side as well. We had our share of fights and arguments.
You were probably right.like I could feel something was bothering her, but she would insist that everything was fine..
You're a good guy and her family agrees.Her whole family absolutely adores me, they think I am a keeper and they just have good things to say about me, they dont understand why she broke up with me.
It's normal to feel upset when someone confronts you and it comes as a surprise.she said "everytime i wanted to confront you, you would get mad" (not true) and she said she hinted at me a lot.
She should never have done that to you. Those are some _really_ mixed up messages.I was at her house when she broke up with me and I stayed there for a 2 weeks after we broke up. It was also my birthday and she spent nearly $200 on gifts and birthday stuff (she bought me 2 cakes as well). She would still hold my hand when we would go places.. but at the same time.. she was talking to this guy constantly on her phone. And as time went by.. she started having feelings for him... and became sexual with him as well (phone sex) which promptly made me leave her house. I was really broken at that point..
Having fun is important to you in relationships and, maybe you view it as a level of intimacy. For example: the way you earlier described the relationship:Her best friend told me that she told him that she was completely over me and there would be no chance of me getting back with her. But she's contacted me on her own quite a lot after he told me that.. and when we have conversations, I can still make her laugh and be playful with each other.
Our relationship was filled with fun, activities, outings, travelling, always treated her like a queen
That's okay. I mean, you were? a part of her life and maybe that's just her way of honouring the relationship?On her Facebook.. she still has all of our romantic pictures up for everyone to see, she still holds on all my gifts to her (from what her family members told me) and in one of our recent conversations she said she want me to give her my favorite pair of slippers...
This is why I feel like you view it kind of as a game (or whatever that I can't pin point). but in a way that makes you react "that was unexpected, I should try again"I really want her back. ..... I dont know how to attack the situation to be on my favor.
You need to let her go man. I feel like you two approach relationships from completely different standpoints - for you, positive experiences are very important in relationships and I think that's how you measure them as either being successful or not. But then, I'm only assuming it might be that she likes the 'waves of emotions'. So, I gather that the breakup was unexpected for you but then, I really think you should just let her go. There are plenty of other options for you and women that share your relationship needs and won't do stuff like break up with you and find another guy asap.Any help or advice that I can use to make her come back to me?
Yeah, you're pretty dedicated and I think you are a good guy. Just try to view this experience for you to understand what is important to you in relationships.P.S she has mentioned a lot to me and her family members that I was an amazing man. But that she just wasn't happy with me she felt disconnected to me and that we were just not compatible but insists on saying I am an amazing guy.
You really need to make peace with yourself. You didn't lose anything, you did the best you could do and honestly, she broke up with you and then went straight to another guy - I mean, if you would get back together. Could you just be all cool about that?
Don't worry - you'll be fine Just let her go, learn from the experience and focus on what makes you happy.