Peppermint
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Ah where do I begin...
Manipulative: Don't try to deny it. We love guilt-tripping others to get our way and we're bloody good at it.
Mean/Bitchy: This comes up when we're being passively angry. Leave it to an INFJ to rip the other person to shreds by attacking the softest spot (that our Ni can see from a mile apart).
Using people as objects: When we're too deprived of Fe, we compensate for it by being extra nice and helpful, especially to people who are not particularly close to us. However, as soon as we get our fill, we move on, leaving those we helped confused and hurt as they probably interpreted our niceness as an offer of friendship.
Self-absorbed: You know it. Everything we do, our martyrdom, our heroism, our altruism (doesn't exist in INFJs, but that's another topic) is for ourselves. Not for anyone else.
Irrational: This is something that less mature INFJs do. When our Ni fails, we take an inaccurate Se judgment and run with it, hurting a million people in the process.
And then there's the self-destructive behavior...
Over-indulgence: INFJ's idea of a punishment.
Tunnel-vision/Over-analytical: When our Ni fails, we start wondering what went wrong and use our Ti to deconstruct the situation piece by piece and focus on a thousand tiny details that are irrelevant to the bigger picture. We keep doing this until someone comes in and kicks us in the shins (ideally, an ENFJ) and makes us see the important bits.
Batshit Insane: If you ever meet an INFJ with a stronger Ti than Fe... RUN. Run as fast as you can. And lock your doors and windows when you get home.
I can go on...
I applaud you for your accuracy and bluntness.
It's usually hard for INFJs to openly admit such things.