The difference between ESTJ and ESTP is a few words:
-ESTPs are kind of like a tank that walk over anything, and can not be stoped...ESTJ are not a tank, but they are a anti-tank rocket; if a ESTJ and a ESTP get into a confrontation, the ESTP pride will have to suffer: the ESTJ will simply block the ESTP, in a absolute and decisive will, that signals to the ESTP that he will have to fight if he is to advance any further;
-ESTPs are more like conquesrors (Se), they advance, and are great tacticians, while ESTJs hold their ground (Te+Si)
-ESTPs are more daring and bold, while ESTJs are more like courageous, their stances is always in acordance with defending some specific causes or decisions, they never make moves just for the sake of moving, what ESTP usualy do;
-ESTPs do have a cast iron self-control, which is to be praised and virtuous, while ESTJs usualy don't have self-control; for example, a ESTJ may rage in uncontrolable anger, while ESTPs rarely do this, and when they do, they can still be in control;
-ESTJs do have "moral material" in them: they are kind, caring, loving, thoughtful and wise, while with ESTPs, they do have some moral qualities, like sincerity (or non-hypocrisy), but in general, they do not like to think of themself as "loving beings". It sounds stupid for them.
-ESTPs have a unbrokable force of will to them, that continously manage to gain the admiration of people, hovewer, ESTPs to that for the thing itself, just to attract, or to demonstrate their superiority; ESTJs never push in a wilful manner for insignificant reason, but only if the situation asks for it, or if it is necessarely for defending a casue, or something that matter much to them;
I want to correct this by writting the followings:
-ESTPs are naturaly the most wilful and determined people to acomplish something, even more then any ESTJ. ESTPs come alive in the face of adversity...the much harder the situation gets, their will and determination grows in proportion to the situation. If one has the opportunity to see a ESTP in real life action, its very impressive and unique. One will get the idea of what the old poets and lyricists were describing in their heroes.
A well known ESTP writter, Earnest Hamilton, was writting..."Courage is grace under pressure!" That's a perfect description of what is the essence of ESTP...they smile in the face of hard situations, smiling with grace, knowing how to win, and if they lose, how to retreat with grace.
So there is a boldness and confidence in everything ESTP.
ESTJs on the other hand, are much more experienced with regard to practical life, they have perhaps more than any type that prudence or practical wisdom described by Aristotle. So in one sense, it is soundly true that ESTJs are the most mature and responsable out of all types. They are people of deliberate choice, according to their own judgement, for the purpose of good, by means of good. They seek by their decisions to understand in depth the implication and role of every action. This is a kind of art, a art of choice, a art of decision, a deadly art, because its a art that perfects the values and virtues of a man, but it can also make it imperfect and evil, dragging the person in vice and moral death.
So this is what makes ESTJs stand out by far superior to any other types. That's why ESTJs can be fully confident in shutting the mouth of people, and even being nasty about it, because they
know and see,
and understand they are more responsible and more mature then other people. So yeah, ESTJs enjoy putting people "back in their place"...
Also, what is very evident and beautiful in ESTJs is their courage. They are not afraid of anything which shouldn't be afraid, and that includes ESTPs. Althought ESTPs have a much more strong psychonomy, ESTPs are considered to be bold, which is a kind of agressive courage that moves forth, while ESTJs have the classic courage, that virtue of character that defends the acts of the one who has courage. So the kind of boldness or courage that ESTJs have is the "I believe this and I do this, and I am standing on my ground, I am not afraid by anything!" kind of courage. Its a courage that defends without the slightest bit of fear what is precious to the person which has this virtue.
So again, by far ESTPs are superior in boldness than ESTJs, but if the ESTJ must defend something which matters to him, by virtue of courage, he is not afraid by anyone, not even a ESTP. That's the beauty of courage, it makes the person bold as a lion when he has to be!
But then, what is so special and why ESTPs are so strong? After all, they usualy don't defend anything to be praised, or at least they don't do this naturaly, only if they are taught to. So they don't have that virtue of courage, because courage is to be used for something good, its a virtue that defends with determination of will a good, something that must be defended.
Also ESTPs don't have practical wisdom or prudence. Then what is about them?
The answer is pretty interesting I think. Aristotle talks in his writtings about a certain kind of men who have the virtue of continenece, also called strenght of will, or strenght on oneself, or self-control. Its a mix of virtue and vice, althought taken on the whole, its a virtue. It basically means that althought the person who is continent is not a virtuos person, it has a kind of personal integrity, a person with personal rules. Its a person who can master himself, a person who althought is not virtuos, is in control of himself, unlike a person which is not virtuos, and also has no continence, and therefore is a stupid person, a idiot which can not be trusted even for oneself.
So that's what makes ESTPs so special...althogut they don't understand and they don't practice virtuous acts, like ESTJs do (and also ISTJs, ENTJs and INTJs, INFPs, ENFPs, ISFJs), they have the cacpacity of will to control themself, and that is to be praised. That's why people respect ESTPs always, althought sometimes they might wonder why, or have doubt about their respect for ESTPs (I am talking about people who know when a person if worhty of respect), because they don't see virtuos acts within ESTPs, but there is something in ESTPs (and ISTPs of course) that demands respect and worth. That is the virtue of self-control. ESTPs and ISTPs posses this virtue to its fulness.
