Artemisia
Community Member
- MBTI
- INFJ
For my entire life, I've longed for the life of others. I had my parents' love, my relatives' love when I was little, and a few men claimed they loved me. Yet, I never felt romantic love and I think I know why now. I expected the two men I had been obsessed with (limerence) to GIVE me love and I did not really give them, always expecting to get it from them.
Recently, I have shifted my perspective and I give love freely, to people and animals. I realise that my relationships (friendships etc.) have become better and the second man I have been obsessed with has been acting much better with me. Perhaps he senses a change in me as I've become more giving and accepting of him.
Can other INFJs identify with this? Did you also go through a shift? Do you believe that giving love will bring back love to you or am I just too idealistic?
Recently, I have shifted my perspective and I give love freely, to people and animals. I realise that my relationships (friendships etc.) have become better and the second man I have been obsessed with has been acting much better with me. Perhaps he senses a change in me as I've become more giving and accepting of him.
Can other INFJs identify with this? Did you also go through a shift? Do you believe that giving love will bring back love to you or am I just too idealistic?