[PAX] Strangers revealing personal things?

Jet said:
Every one must die...why not go down in a blaze of glory with hot fit men in tight shiny drawers and capes :mclap:
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Jet said:
Every one must die...why not go down in a blaze of glory with hot fit men in tight shiny drawers and capes :mclap:
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“To die, to sleep -
To sleep, perchance to dream - ay, there's the rub,
For in this sleep of death what dreams may come...”

Ha ha true true.. I think you need @ruji to answer that one tho..

On a more philosophical point tho ? We are all seemingly made of atoms, small tiny packets of energy that were created in the big bang.. that have lasted from the beginning of time and recycle endlessly forming new patterns and life forms.. so do we ever truly die ?

Or is the entire thing an illusion, a trick of the light ?

“We are star stuff harvesting sunlight.”

― Carl Sagan


and now back to sports.. lol
 
Scientia said:
Do you have odd experiences with strangers or acquaintances revealing very personal or embarrassing details to you in casual conversation? In public?

This happens to me all the time, so much so that I don't see it as unusual anymore. Today, I was shopping and someone rammed my cart on purpose. I looked up and it was my neighbor. I had not seen him in months, so I said hello and told him about the divorce and how we are all doing okay. He told me that he has an enlarged prostate and it takes him a long time to urinate. Then he said if I need anything to just stop by and ask.

This happens to me all the time. How about you?
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All the time.

I often engage in small talk with cashiers and people at retail stores. Often the conversation goes on longer than it should and I feel guilty about having to leave. I once had a fascinating chat with a woman from the government service line that lasted two and a half hours after she answered my original question.
 
First of all, LMAO @ the "My body is ready" GIF. That made me lul for a while and is saved to my phone.

People, with me anyways, do have a tendency to be a bit more personal than I'd ever dare dream of being in terms of the stranger department. I think maybe though for some people, sharing something with a stranger can add a piece of anonymity or objectivity to their problems and help them validate or even in those rare cases "I haven't told anyone else this before..." moments help them do just that. Tell someone for the first time. I generally take it as a compliment. They obviously see something that they know they can trust with someone like that, so you know, it's flattering (if a little bewildering in concept). The veil of anonymity that comes with these casual encounters can really help someone. And if there's a running theme for INFJ's is that we're helper-sluts, AMIRITE!? It's almost as much of a need for me as sleep, sex, and food.

~Zafronio25
 
What about the crazies, crazy people always seem to love me. I try and avert my gaze but it doesn't help...no hiding anywhere.
 
Scientia said:
Do you have odd experiences with strangers or acquaintances revealing very personal or embarrassing details to you in casual conversation? In public?

This happens to me all the time, so much so that I don't see it as unusual anymore. Today, I was shopping and someone rammed my cart on purpose. I looked up and it was my neighbor. I had not seen him in months, so I said hello and told him about the divorce and how we are all doing okay. He told me that he has an enlarged prostate and it takes him a long time to urinate. Then he said if I need anything to just stop by and ask.

This happens to me all the time. How about you?
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Maybe he thought you talking about your divorce was an invitation to have a personal conversation? I find that since I am more candid with people (ask me how I'm doing and I'll certainly tell you if the answer is poorly), they in turn feel free to spill their own beans.
 
Also elderly people are used to talking about body functions.
 
melissa* said:
What about the crazies, crazy people always seem to love me. I try and avert my gaze but it doesn't help...no hiding anywhere.
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I think mentally ill people, like lots of people, can intuit if there is a compassionate person around. So they might try to talk to you. If your micro facial expressions reveal say concern or pity rather than fear, contempt and disgust, they are more likely to talk at/to you. I don't personally know you and whether or not you are a compassionate person, but that's my response to people in general who complain that the "crazies" always choose them to talk to on the subway.
 
PintoBean said:
I think mentally ill people, like lots of people, can intuit if there is a compassionate person around. So they might try to talk to you. If your micro facial expressions reveal say concern or pity rather than fear, contempt and disgust, they are more likely to talk at/to you. I don't personally know you and whether or not you are a compassionate person, but that's my response to people in general who complain that the "crazies" always choose them to talk to on the subway.
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I'm compassionate yes, I'm also a bit of 'crazy' myself...seeing things from another point of view and different sides of the same issue makes a lot of things in life and situations quite laughable. That's why I liked working for people in care it's often a tragic-comic situation going on within the everyday mundane. I wanted to work in mental health but I realised that I would not be OK with the NHS and drug treatments...in an area of therapy, well yes that'd be O.K.

I'm not so happy about being side- lined by drunks. I do have a lot of respect for the Scots. I really see people here looking out for each other. It really is the norm. There is practically zero crime, and everyone looks after each other, it's normal rather than anything special.

After a beer festival I was on a bus and a whole group of (very drunk) men and an elderly lady got on.. the elderly lady ended up half doubled over and on the floor, and the men were trying to help her get up...it got more and more ridiculous because she was refusing the help, but couldn't get up herself... ahh happy days, so atleast I know if I end up face down in a ditch I will be helped...

That reminds me, when I first came up here I ended up asleep in a park, face down, after a 10 hr sleepless night journey on the train. A Scot came up to me, woke me up and said 'I thought you were deed'. (dead)..I thought, that's very nice of you, where I've come from no one would have given a shit.
 
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I work in a hospital..... I hear LOTS! Sometimes I get very behind on my work because I feel trapped in a patient room hearing someone's life store.... I love it (sometimes) I've heard so many things from awesome people I can never tell anyone about!
 
PintoBean said:
Maybe he thought you talking about your divorce was an invitation to have a personal conversation? I find that since I am more candid with people (ask me how I'm doing and I'll certainly tell you if the answer is poorly), they in turn feel free to spill their own beans.
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Maybe that's part of it, like opening the door. I was very matter of fact and straightforward about it because he needed to know I wasn't selling the house and no body parts were mentioned, so the prostate thing was quite another level. It's okay, I didn't even blink and I am used to this type of thing but it occurred to me that not everyone gets this type of information from people we don't know well.
 
melissa* said:
What about the crazies, crazy people always seem to love me. I try and avert my gaze but it doesn't help...no hiding anywhere.
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i'm a mentally ill people magnet too. :/ once, i have talked to someone i didn't know he was mentally ill (he was living on streets) not until we were done talking that he laughed out loud,stuck out his tongue and said weird things while pointing at me.. one of the security guards on the building nearby told me that the man was crazy that it was a good thing he only talked and didn't hurt me....:m082::m077:

melissa* said:
Also elderly people are used to talking about body functions.
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this too. so much i feel so uncomfortable i feel like i get a precise image from my imagination of what they're talking about.:m107:
 
A random student whom I do not know nor do I have her in any of my classes told me all about her recent experience in the hospital due to a suicide attempt. I listened, made sure she was okay and let her hug me and cry.
 
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