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Thoughts From A Tired Soul

I'm exhausted from being kept awake on Facebook messenger from an armchair bully.

Does anyone know how to print a conversation from messenger? I don't have FB on my PC but it's on my phone, from which I can't print from, lol.

Those that know me know I'm very much involved in American Legion and it's programs. So much so that I tagged on the new hat of 6th District VP, lol. Veterans of any kind are important to me ...

Well the other day I ran across a conversation in our Community Forum where two people, and a friend, a fellow Aux member, were all squaring off about our clothing---stressing the word clothing here---drop off box is in our garage. This time of year the 'box' gets jammed up with Community members' failed yard sale items. Mind there is a huge laminated sign above the doggie door stating used clothing only.

These folks still cram in whatever will fit in the's about 3x3 foot square and you could shove a St. Bernard through the opening, lol. The fellas that made it built it that big to accommodate an average size bag of clothes through it without ripping the bag. We get all sorts of things in there, even common household garbage!

Once or twice a week a Legion member has to sort through the bags before the truck comes to pick the items up. The driver has a key and is gracious to load the items in the truck. He will not take any of it if it's trash, knick knacks, glass, or the like. The bin is for clothing only.

Well back to my armchair bully...

He was offering, a nonmember mind, to meet the gal complaining on the Community forum at the garage to empty the drop box. Neither realizing that the damn door to sort from is locked, with only 2 people having a key. Did they plan to go through the doggie door?
Well she publicly called all of us members a bunch of lazy drunks, he said he had no plans to join but would meet her at our garage to empty the box.....well shit, no y'all won't. That's private property, lol.

So I took the bait...

Was it boredom, bedlam, or my just wanting to call them out based on principles? Maybe a little, however, it was more like I was pissed at them for publicly calling our veterans and AL family a bunch of lazy drunks! No we ain't. Many of us do a whole lot to improve our Community. We sponsor the free to them July 4th week, fireworks, carnival and parade so the community members can sit in their lawn chairs along main street with their beer can in hand at 10 am...

errhehm...I digress back to the conversation with this arm chair bully...

So I tell her she's not very nice, she tells me I'm an ignorant asshole and butt out...ha. There's one.
He accepted my loaded offer to dm me about sponsorship in the ALF because he's a VETERAN! and he's married to a woman that I went to school with and played with as a child...she lives right down the road. lol. they do now, lol.

So I tell him after he tells me that our Commander has been trying to recruit him for years, that I would pay the $50 first years dues for him if he would commit to saving $1 a week to pay his own next year; to hook up with the Commander, show him the conversation, and the Commander would then come find me....oh he'll no!

He was pleasant and thanked me, said he'd catch up with Mack, thinking about it...then messages me around 6pm says the woman is not stopping her ranting...

Y'all know how we can sense something just isn't right? well I sure felt that set up the whole way through, lol.

I go look for the original conversation and nuthin. No subsequent condos either, lol. I decided to see how far he'd play it out. :smirk:

So, I asked him outright what his motivation to join the Legion was. Here's a link, my suggestion is to go see what the ALF actually does, Letting him know we were more than the neighborhood drop box.

Can we all say narcissistic mf together now? I can't stand a person setting me up to prove a fight he thinks he's already won in his head before he even starts talking. He musta thought I missed where he said he had no intention to join the Legion. :wink::tearsofjoy:

Thus the reason I had tossed the facts, or bait depending on viewpoint.

So, at half-past 11 pm-ish, mind I'm sleeping for the night, lol, he says he's had time to think, (no, he had time to restructure his fight because I didn't bite the first time,) and asked me why I was questioning his motives.


Well, probably because I smelled the rank of your intent from the first consonant typed in the community forum.

I said I recind my offer of sponsorship.
At 2:23 am exactly he pinged my phone yet y'all know that one of a narcissist's/bully's mo's is sleep deprivation?

Yeah, not this cat. He went on and on about how I'm an ignorant asshole and a bad representative of our organization, blah, blah, f-ing blah...All I could do is laugh because he thought he woke me up, but in reality this old gals bladder had me awake first! :tearsofjoy:

So I assured him that I did indeed call him out, and I'm good with him snitching to our Commander (I'm Auxiliary and we have a president and our Commander says yes ma'am to me because we've been friends for over 6 years and he can't tell me what to do any way because were a separate entity, lol) I didn't tell him all that however I did send Mack a text at an appropriate hour of what's going on and he told me he's got it and will shut it down :hearteyes: He's one of the good guys, a 2 war vet and very active in our Community.

So I went back to sleep for a couple hours. Mack calls me, tells me he's sorry for waking me up but all was taken care of..........we laughed because as we were on the phone Mr. Armchair Bully blew up messenger with how rude, ignorant, and cheeky I am and that he wasn't going to pursue anything with the Commander and I could, and I quote "Have the m-f-ing day I deserve ". lol.

Brother don't I wish I could have a day deserving of all the things I've done and do for my family friends, and community!

What a shmuck. I didn't answer him.

Perhaps karma will visit him, perhaps he'll get his Christian reward.

I need a nap and a Tylenol :p
The bully never, ever wins.

My armchair bully did indeed take his grievances to the wrong audience. Our Commanders...yep, more than one, set my ill-informed neighbor on a more agreeable path. One of our Commanders is also the Town Supervisor. He made an at home visit to my disgruntled neighbor on my behalf as well as the dropbox volunteers...the neighbor was invited to a 15 minute floor space at the next Town meeting. He denied the invitation.

Just terrible that is. He'll not be spreading viscious rumors nor harassing me in the future because he was advised...not warned, as that would be harassing him...anyhoo, he was asked to cease and desist or he would be summoned to Town Court and charged with slander and harassment not only to me, but the 982 other Legion members as well.


I truly didn't realize and greatly appreciate the backing of my good deeds in my community.

I didn't know that by my maintaining my own integrity, treating my fellow community members equally in kindness and respect would have such an impact on others.

I'm certainly going to keep doing me. ;)


I feel this ..... Tiger Food lol :tearsofjoy:
Today my weekly message from my vastly open-minded Spiritual Leader/Preacher. He's the best! He spoke at dad's funeral and there wasn't a dry eye in the room. He's pastor at three different churches five days a week. A psychic--known worldwide for finding lost and stolen children...not all the stories having happy endings unfortunately. I've known him much of my life and used to go to sleepovers with his younger sister when we were in grade school. Her family moved away to another state the summer we were moving into the sixth grade. We kept in touch via letters until MySpace and now Facebook came about. Phil was in parochial college by then. It was a blessing to our community when he and his SO Charlie moved back home.
His email message this morning really hit home with me today...Never doubt the power of genuine will move even the stoniest of hearts ♡

I'm sharing his message with all of you this morning in hopes that love touches you in miraculous ways...❤️
Dear Friends,

When life weakens us, in our human journey, we need to go beyond the grasp of human expectations, anticipation, and resolve and turn it over to the God of our understanding to strengthen us. We must overcome the fears that life creates and trust a power greater than ourselves. The human spirit often feels it must take care of itself before relying on faith or God. We are not God, yet God and faith are the very essence of our being. The inpatient spirit can become angry, frustrated, and doubtful, assuming the worst. Yet, when we experience the peace that faith has to offer, we discover an understanding and direction in our life where we don’t have to walk alone, but with the love that surrounds us. It is through darkness that faith lights the way. Difficulties, health issues, financial insecurity, relationship issues, etc., are all part of the human journey. However, as we are all humans on a spiritual journey and spirits on a human journey we must integrate both into our one being to feel harmonized spiritually as humans. A prayer that has sustained me so many times in my life is The Serenity Prayer:

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Many times, I must repeat that many times, and digest its meaning to accommodate my situation. The prayer lets me know that I am not alone as I call upon the God of my understanding, it helps me to call upon the world around me for help, but also helps me to accept my responsibility in my journey. Love means we are in this journey together, our faith becomes the vehicle to maintain that love...
Again this world doesn't cease to prove me right...

Tho, I sincerely wish I weren't.

We had a young man, 34, (to me that's young), disapear in May from a large town about 20 minutes away. His picture was posted all over 4 local news stations. Some of the news stories were of his family pleading with the public for any leafs of information.

Into the third dayish I felt it...felt that he was gone from the area. I recall thinking he was another soul wandering off to find himself.

As the weeks passed his story faded to the background to be replaced by others' stories.

It was an awful feeling watching the news report today that they've found him. The authorities found him in a shallow grave on the statelands about 10 minutes from my little town. They have also said they've indited 10 individuals for kidnapping and murder 2nd.

What the fuk.

The different agencies said the investigation spread across 2 counties and 2 states and that MORE were being charged.

Again, I ask, what the fuk?

I don't even want to know these details. :( yet, I do.

How could so many people be charged in the incident 😳 Why did none of them come forward with information at the time?

My only conclusion is there must have been a party, things went wrong, and ... and what?

I just pray the young man's soul finds peace as his family too finds understanding and peace in what is developing into a horror story for all of us in my little town.

Geeish if I'm not stumped with questions.