LostInTheForest
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- MBTI
- INFJ
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- 9w1
I'm wondering if anyone else does this; Say you are walking towards someone..they are a fair distance away and you make eye contact. This is someone you might know, but not a close friend or anything like that. I will make eye contact and smile or something, but as they get closer, say close enough to say "Hi"...I may do so, but usually look down and feel their "energy". Not sure how else to explain this. I don't feel it's being shy really, but more along the lines of connecting differently, maybe reading them..something like that. I do this all the time, but if this is an actual friend we typically engage in dialogue, even if only briefly.
I'm aware that I do this, but I'm not really trying to, it just seems natural to me. A few people have asked me why I do this, but these are people such as co-workers; not people I'm truly close to emotionally. Because we're not close I try to deflect their question without getting into details, and for a long time was actually unaware that this was unusual behavior. I still do it, but I know that it's more socially acceptable to either maintain eye contact, or not to do it at all, but I still catch myself looking down at the last second. I suppose it's because I'm sensing a lack of connection with them so maintaining eye contact would make them uncomfortable, so I stop?
I'm aware that I do this, but I'm not really trying to, it just seems natural to me. A few people have asked me why I do this, but these are people such as co-workers; not people I'm truly close to emotionally. Because we're not close I try to deflect their question without getting into details, and for a long time was actually unaware that this was unusual behavior. I still do it, but I know that it's more socially acceptable to either maintain eye contact, or not to do it at all, but I still catch myself looking down at the last second. I suppose it's because I'm sensing a lack of connection with them so maintaining eye contact would make them uncomfortable, so I stop?