I was married for 10 and a half years and I think he is an ENTP.
He was always talking, (often times for the sake of hearing his own voice).
He was very hyperactive.
He was a pathalogical lier. ( he still may be)...
He was a horrible listener.
He was aware of ONLY his own feelings.
He was amazingly clever and had a photographic memory.
He was extremely manipulative.
He would talk with anyone and everyone (and thought everyone was his best friend).
He still thinks that it's always everybody elses fault.
He cannot read people at all.
He is the most scatterbrained person I know.
He always gets mad when others have constructive critisism of him.
He cares mainly just about himself and has no concept of foresight and consideration for others...
Yea it was a fun decade for me,
(btw, we've been divorced for almost 6 years now)
That made me sad reading that.
Yes, there is some truth to that statement you made about ENTP's. Let me explain how I can relate to some of these statements, hopefully It will help you understand a bit more. (Please don't take this as an insult to your Ex husband or yourself, I don't mean to point the finger at him or you, my apologies in advance);
He was always talking, (often times for the sake of hearing his own voice).
Yes, like most extraverts we like to talk. Sometimes we are caught talking to ourselves and having pretend conversations. Often I preplan what I'm going to say to someone through talking out a conversation.
We often like to talk to others about what we have learnt, ideas, theories, our day, dreams etc. just to get a reaction. Sometimes we don't need answer but we do like it we people are listening.
We are very active people in many ways,
I do martial arts myself about two times a week at my local
IOGKF Goju Ryu Karate Dojo for about two to three hours at a time, I do running every other day. If I don't exercise I get very depressed and feel worthless. We like exercising with people, but we become very competitive (this is the reason why I don't exercise much with my family members and prefer to do solitary sports)
Often when I do something like watching a movie or reading a book I have to pause and reflect on what I have just seen or read and react out how I would of reacted to a certain situation, I don't like going to the cinema because of this. Its too overwhelming.
We also become very active and excited when we have thought of a brilliant idea or If we have just realised something and we feel that we have to share it with the world.
He was a pathalogical lier.
I do have to admit we tend to over exaggerate the truth. I do this myself sometimes.
Its a trait of mine that I'm not fond of and I try to stick as close as I can to the truth. The truth hurts but lies hurt even more in my book. I get very angry at myself when I lie because I know that I am being selfish and I am only hurting the person that I am lying to, all because I'm afraid of the immediate consequences, another stupid reason why I lie sometimes is because I want to feel special and importiant.
Let me show you something that I read on wikipedia on pathalogical liar's (you might have already read it);
Persons who are considered pathological liars have average or slightly below average intelligence, with better verbal IQ than performance IQ.
He was a horrible listener.
This one makes me sad.
I know when I talk to someone I try my best to listen without interrupting but sometimes I do butt in over the top but I try my best to steer back to what they were originally talking about, I always try my best listen to my INFJ friends.
He was aware of ONLY his own feelings.
Unfortunately I can relate with this.
Other peoples feelings feel numb to me. I find it difficult to see what they are seeing. But none the less I try my best to see what they are seeing even though I can't do it very well.
My INXJ sister would get angry with me when I couldn't understand someones feelings, this made me sad.
He was amazingly clever and had a photographic memory.
Yes, we are very good at this. However I wish I had this ability evertime I lose something such as my wallet.
He was extremely manipulative.
This one makes me angry.
I can't stand ENTP's that abuse this ability. There is a place and a time for it but not all the the time. I know sometimes I can come across as manipulative but I try not to force anyone to do anything that they don't want to do.
He would talk with anyone and everyone (and thought everyone was his best friend).
I used to be like this myself but all it did was slap me back across the face. I thought him being married to an INFJ (yourself) he would of realised this.
INFJ's I consider one of the hardest types to build a friendship with, yet alone a romantic relationship (that would be like climbing Mount Everest)
He still thinks that it's always everybody elses fault.
I bet deep down inside he knew it was his fault. He's a coward to not admit it.
He cannot read people at all.
We have different ways of reading people but often we need to training to do so. We go by the way how someone walks, talks and eye contact. We are not the best at sensing others emotions yet alone relating with them.
He is the most scatterbrained person I know.
This one made me laugh, because its true. We are scatterbrained. Leaving stuff all over the place and then forgetting where we placed it. It can be a nightmare for us! However the biggest nightmare for me Is when I forget to take my medication, that can be disastrous.
He always gets mad when others have constructive critisism of him.
Its strange, I love constructive critisism! It forces me to become better.
Its one of the best things in the world for me because I learn from it and ENTP's love learning.
He cares mainly just about himself and has no concept of foresight and consideration for others...
No concept of foresight? I thought we were always looking to the future?
I always try to look into the future of my actions thats why I havn't run off and done what "normal teens" do because I know that It will only hurt me, my future and others.
Yea it was a fun decade for me,
(btw, we've been divorced for almost 6 years now)
How easy was that for to say?
Aren't you sad?
I would be sad If I married an INFJ and then divorced him.
To have experianced what sounded like the full warth of a immature ENTP must of been harsh. I can see why you and others on the forums might have some dislike for them.
But I hope this post might of cleared something up, or maybe you already knew all of this?
INFJ's tend to carry the answers to some of lifes many mysteries.
I do have to say as an ENTP I do feel useless, and sometimes I do ask myself "Would I really be a worthy partner, a wife, a mother, a soulmate?" All I hope for is that I don't give my future partner the hell that yours gave you.
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